"I'm hungry Papa, why can't we leave the city to try to find some food in the country side ?"
"The roads, son... they have done a number on them. So many potholes. We are doomed."
"But can't we just wal..."
"POTHOLES, son. It's hopeless. Time to eat the neighbours"
The answer is it depends on the game IMO. A game where you play a defined, scripted character like The Witcher ? I guess the criticism could make sense (even then I don't think it matters much).
A game like BG3 / most cRPGs where you create the character from scratch entirely ? anything goes IMO, it's your character, you decide its sexuality.