TankieCatgirl

I don't think anyone would fault you for using the information you currently have available, even if it might possibly be outdated. And if someone happens to know updated information, a quick correction is all it would take.

And thinking to check a profile for pronouns is now something you can try to be aware of, and do better with.

I do wish you would use hir correct (as far as we know) pronouns now that you have been corrected, though.

Which is exactly why we should be more aware of using someone's correct pronouns when possible, to avoid misunderstandings.

The correct response in that case would be "my bad, let me fix it" and then fixing it, not going on the defensive because people who are sensitive to that kind of thing are justifiably upset.

Kinda hypocritical to yell at libs for refusing to read short works about communism before criticizing it, and then turn around and refuse to click a link to check someone's pronouns before writing several paragraphs about them.

That's 100% understandable, and there's a huge difference between being understanding of someone struggling in a context like that, vs not bothering to click a link to verify before throwing up your hands and acting like it's unknowable. I also assume you knew the person well enough to know he was actually trying, which doesn't often apply online.

If you can't be bothered to do the bare minimum of due diligence to check a hexbear user's pronouns before discussing them, I don't know what to tell you. In cases where you have no easy way of finding out someone's pronouns, sure, use they/them, but refusing to put in the bare modicum of effort when our pronouns are right on our profile is lib shit.

I've had it done to me before I started using she/they with the intent of refusing to accept that I'm a "real woman". It tends to be used as a way to refuse to use someone's correct pronouns, and instead handwave their identity as unimportant, but the lib still gets to feel progressive. Imo it's only proper to use they/them as a default when you have no way of knowing someone's pronouns.

I love my xenogender comrades.

I think I did not long after the comm opened, but happy to post it again!