That's okay. Yeah good internet conversation x)
And yeah, growing older and growing apart is a part of what happen in my case. Priorities change over life. But it's hard to find new friends for new parts of life.
foreigners come to out country, are happy and highly motivated, but are leaving a few years later depressed and isolated. Cause they don't find people to make friends with. Cause we are so closed of (i mention it cause i read an article about that. And i really do understand them)
I am not taking it offencive. But how did you read that into it? That my SO doesn't want me to have friends? That's not nice for a stranger to assume and to analyse.
My best friend and i are working 10 Minutes apart. But she doesn't have time to even go out and eat. So we hang out on discord every few weeks. I don't like that very much, but since corona friendships just are this way. My country doesn't value friendship that much so we don't put in the work. And That's pretty sad, but cause everyone is doing that it's hatd to break that circle.
I don't think living/being poly is as exhausting as keeping up other relationships. It is more exhausting to lie and to hide when you are cheating. Cause you create a mask and by that causing a distance to your partner.
Our society has a big focus on momogamous romantic relationship. Family, friends, other relationships variants... "not that desirable". Even i, a monogamous, find that... exhausting. My family always fights with each other, my friends are busy working. Who is left to connect to?
I love my boyfriend. But i often wish for more connection with other people (non romantic and non sexual). Just hanging out, sharing thoughts and emotions. Without being afraid of vurnability. But that means to make time for friends, to stop having a grugde with the family.
Every relationship is exhausting, but the connection it's worth the effort.
It is a complicated topic. Cause a disability or age is not a good reason to limit access to something. It should never be a reason.
We need to improve healthcare, making our Environment accessible to everyone. And we need to ask ourself why do older people feel the need to stay in politics? Could it be that our society has a bad view on getting older so people are afraid to retire and admit that their capability has changed?
I grew up next to Düsseldorf. I freaking love this city. Wouldn't it be so expensiv i would live there.
Because it is a magnet for anime fans, i early came in contact with queerness and different worldviews. Düsseldorf still has a big connection to art and due to figures like Joseph Beuys the art community is still pretty progressive. I went to university there and the campus had a progressiv Atmosphere there as well.
But on the other side the city is full of rich and conservativ people. A weird contrast. I would say Düsseldorf is educated while cologne is more open and welcoming.
Erst dachte ich, ha lächerliche FDP. Und dann stellte ich fest, dass ich die Straße seit Jahren kenne und nichts von dem Radweg wusste. Denn die Straße ist immer voller Menschen, wie man es von einem Innenstadtbereich nunmal kennt. Dort einen Fahrradweg hinzupacken, war vielleicht nicht die beste Entscheidung.
Warframe and lilo and stich. Love that idea🥰
Yeah, i can relate. Yesterday i empathized with people doing moral wrong stuff, saying that i can understand their logic. And than was acused that it would be my logic. That irrate me the whole night, but in the end it just was my brutal honesty and a lack of black and white thinking.
But yeah, it hurts when people missread that. I hope you doing good :)