Phoebe

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (4 children)

This is so true.

I had 2 therapies in my life but it never felt that helpfull. Yes, to give me a kind of stability and helped me to not felt into the dark. But i always felt under presure, when it comes to my asexuality (it's just 'trauma'). Or when i didn't want to participate in ttrpg anymore cause the german geek community is sexist as fuq.

I always felt that i would go crazy and that my fears are not real. That hurted so much and had delayed my "healing" unnecessary. Only when i found a partner to speak openly and when i connected to people dealing with the same stuff, i realized, that i wasn't alone.

I learned about adhd in women and how east germany had abused psychiatry (cause my stepdad was a refugee from there)... i've always believed in psychology, but right now my "believe" is shattered. How can people think, they know more than their patients? Know better how to treat them?

I am glad there are people seeing the same issues. That there is a name to it. It makes me feel more empowered. Thank you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Yes i know. My gouverment doesn't feel responsibility for a group called 'Heilpraktiker', who tell you that stones can heal depression and that cancer is manifestated hearth break...

I just learned about all of that a few month ago and still feeling... shocked

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (14 children)

Wait, its a leftist view? I thought it was a fact

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Erhelle mich: wozu braucht man Ethanol?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Selbstverständlich. Aber es ging mir eher um den absurden bürokratischen Aufwand, den Privatpersonen, Vermieter und Hausgemeinschaften betreiben müssen, um überhaupt eine zu bekommen. Man muss sie nicht wie ein Großkonzern behandeln. Aber dieser eine Beamte so: dat muss alles sene Richtigkeit haben.

Das Ahrtal wäre theoretisch auch in der Lage, Strom und Wärme autark und klimaneutral zu sein... aber es scheitert an bürokratischen/ finanziellen Hürden.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Yes, you are truly right!

One Dimension is accessibility for people who are going through a mental crisis. Who are not taken serious, who can't access healthcare put of poverty. Who are queer, but are forced to live under another identity. Who have been threaten horribly because of weird practices.

The other Dimension is a society/authoritarian state making their people sick. Cause in east germany (and in many other states that exist today) normal people were treaten poorly and grind down (right word?). They were made depressed, anxious, paranoid. In ordner to lose their free will, so they can't become rebellious.

This made east german psychiatry based on the own body and the "chemicals in the brain". You just throw some medicine at someone and your job is done. You don't have to fix unjustice, giving people a home or a good wage.

My stepdad was a refugee from east germany. But i grew up after the fall of the Berlin Wall. Too much trauma in this family, but nobody ever talked about that. So i spend a lot of time trying to understand what was going on. And what impact it had on me and my siblings. I went to therapy, but i never really needed that. It gave me stability were my parents couldn’t give me much. But as a woman and queer person i am faced with so much unjustice, just "beeing confidend" doesn't make stuff better. My asexuality can't be healted cause it's no illness.

In a united germany there is this lie that we are all democratic, tolerant, future orientated, that Talent and hard work will make ones life better. "An individual just need to get their shit toghether" and we all can live a happy heteronormativ life in a cruel oeconomic Environment. i hate this mindset so much 😆

And then there are Heilpraktiker, an esotheric abormination. Who say that cancer comes from a broken heart... and people believe them. Cause they don't trust medicine.

In the end i am not shure were my weird mind is going. Cause to much stuff in a smal text. But i hope i can someday help people finding the right way: some need medicine, some a therapy, some need to create a union. but we all need a country that is taking their job serious. Who feels responsibil for their people! 😤

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Op is my todays hero ☺️

Cause i am an science historian interessted in the history of psychology and psychiatry. I want to understand why normal citizen are so paranoid when it comes to seeking psychologal help. When i found up what bs doctors in east germany did to their patients...

it is really importaint to double question your knowledge!

What reddit taught me: as a scientist working for a gouverment run institute i had no idea of all the bureaucracy and administration stuff. Redditors from my country told me a lot. Now i know how to nor be a 'arbeitsdrohne'😆

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

In the past women could put chicken in their pockets. But now they are smal so you can buy extra bags.

My life got so much better after buying those trousers from a middle age market. Now i look cool in the office 😎

[–] [email protected] 45 points 2 years ago (1 children)

My boyfriend and i can't wait to watch this movie 😊 💕 (but cinema got expensiv dudeee 🥲)

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago

Yes, i will love and protect them forever.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago

Hm. Mir gefällt leider nicht der Fokus des Artikels auf das einzelne Individuum. Es klingt so, als sei man selbst schuld, als könne man aus Unfähigkeit heraus alte Muster nicht durchbrechen und müsse einfach wegrennen, wenn sich gleiche Muster wieder etablieren.

Aber die Perspektive auf das Umfeld wird dabei ignoriert. Wenn eine Frau beispielsweise immer wieder zu hören bekommt, sie sei hysterisch und überemotional, wenn sie von Problemen mit ihrem Partner berichtet? Dann ist sie alleine mit ihrem Problem und kann sich keine Unterstützung holen. Wenn sie ihren Partner verlässt, sie ihre Wohnung verliert, vielleicht keine andere Arbeit nach der Zeit der Kindererziehung finden... dann ist das einfach ihr Mindset.

Es gibt reale soziale Abhängigkeiten. Reale soziale Probleme. Es gibt männliche und weibliche Sozialisierung. Die kann man nicht mit dem passenden Mindset ändern. Man muss aktiv etwas daran ändern, wie wir alle mit Beziehungen und miteinander umgehen. Nicht nur eine einzige Person.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Alles richtig, keine Kritik dazu. Gleichzeitig willst du aber eine Photovoltaikanlage haben und die deutsche Behörde behandelt dich als Privatperson genau so wie RWE, weil du 3 Kilowattstunden ins Stromnetz einspeist. Dann willst du mit der Bahn fahren, aber deine Strecke kostet dich 2 stunden statt ner halben weil Bauarbeiten, Personen im Gleis und ein quiddishhh spiel zusammen stattfinden.

Es gäbe Möglichkeiten, einen Wandel sozialverträglich zu machen. Aber dieser sollte dann aber auch nicht sabotiert werden vom diversen wichtigen Stellen

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