Yeah it's unbelievable the amount of shaming there is around sex, and I agree with you that women are judged more harshly than men when thier sexuality falls outside what society deems acceptable.
On a related note, it really grinds my fuckin' gears that society tends to think there's something wrong with someone if they express sexuality outside what's deemed acceptable.
Oh not at all! The dress looks good on you! Your whole outfit is well put together. The shade of the sunglasses matches the dress, and the headband. I like your earrings, too.