I had to double check that I hadn't written about this already.
Yesterday, I went for a group run as part of a founders meetup in San Francisco. When I told one bloke I was from Canada, he asked my thoughts about Trump saying we should be the 51st state.
For a moment I remembered I wasn't at work, and refreshingly gave my thoughts.
I don't give a fuck. Like debates on transgender issues, people love talking about this because it's easier and more fun than discussing real issues.
There is a war in Gaza happening right now. There are literally asylum seekers from Russia running in our group. 30% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck[0].
When you focus on surface level issues, you feel like the people "against you" are the people in the same boat as you. You end up in-fighting with the same class workers with the same struggles as you, while billionaires buy property in their 3rd escape country.
Stop talking about these pointless issues. Pick a couple real issues and get educated on it. Global warming, proxy wars, wealth inequality, human rights, gov't corruption, the list goes on. If you're not interested in debating these, you don't moral high ground. You have moral role-play hobbies.
Kk I actually read your post. Yea that's pretty heartbreaking. Ignore what the other guy said about finding a rebound.
As a guy in a long distance relationship, I understand what your ex means by saying he wished that he treated you better. I always feel that way when we're apart - and I feel like I do better each time we get back together - but you feel that way when you miss someone, not when you already have them there. This is likely why he didn't try harder during the relationship.
I stand by my previous advice to get a new hobby. Go running. Pick up rock climbing. Meet new people - this is a new chapter for you, and you have plenty of opportunity to learn. Put yourself out there and distract yourself, otherwise the thoughts will consume you in waves.
Many of us are commenting from experience. Breakups happen. But they give opportunity to grow in a way that you haven't grown before. You have newfound time to be alone - time previously spent with him. Do something with it.