MantidSys

Because, for some reason, people think it's better to smooth over social situations by acting inauthentically than handle any amount of friction or disagreement. But that's how people end up with entire friend groups they don't relate to, and feel unhappy.

Personally, I think most people lack the emotional maturity to act authentic to themselves and say 'fuck the haters'. People who do that tend to end up a lot more satisfied with life than chronic people-pleasers. I would know - I've tried both ways, and the people-pleasing only leads to anxiety and shame, like the OP's meme describes.

Everyone in this comment section is yelling about how bad discord is, telling people to use forums or matrix instead. No one is asking "why?". Why aren't people using forums or matrix? Because the path to user growth isn't guilting people into the 'morally correct' choice, it's making a product they want to use.

Why are small communities using discord over forums? Well, we're talking about small projects, hobbies, and volunteer work. Hosting a forum costs both time and money - renting server space and configuring/managing both the forum and the server. Making a discord channel is instant and free. You want your favorite project to have a forum? Then take up the mantle of hosting and maintaining it yourself. You want all projects to use a forum? Develop a forum system that you absorb the hosting costs for. Neither of these exist, so communities use discord.

Why are small communities using discord over matrix? I'm in my 30s, I spend all day on my PC, I've taken a couple years of college courses in programming. Figuring out matrix was annoying for me. I had to figure out which client program to use, I had to navigate the less-than-ideal way of joining servers, and there was a difficulty curve for understanding the program's features and how to use it. It wasn't impossible, but it took effort. Discord doesn't. For every step of friction, a product will bleed users. Matrix is cumbersome to set up and use, and it's copying something that already exists and does it better for the end-user experience. It shouldn't be surprising that people prefer discord. Want that to change? Start contributing code to matrix and refine the user on-boarding process.

Instead of stating opinions, ask questions. That's how things get changed. No amount of moral grandstanding will change end-users, no matter how correct you might be.

When my partner tried to apply for disability, she was initially denied. So she appealed with the help of a lawyer to try to put things in her favor.

The lawyer showed up with a massive stack of papers, said "wow, this is the most proof I've seen, this should go smoothly."

My partner goes into the hearing. She comes out quite quickly, and tells me what happened. The judge confirmed her identity, asked her about her transgender-related healthcare, then said there's no more questions, it seems like she can work, and that the appeal was over.

The lawyer said nothing in the appeal. On the way out, he said "huh, I thought that was a sure thing." We never heard from the law agency again. They were the biggest agency in a major city.

Of course the denial letter didn't mention being trans at all, instead it said she's just lazy, and even had a claim that her medical history is likely faked.

It's an amazing system -- very successful in denying people benefits.

It's times like these that I'm glad I am autistic. You neurotypicals really over-complicate things and make life difficult for yourselves.

How to flirt as an autistic person: make a friend over shared interests, spend time together sharing that interest, realize they're enjoyable to be around, communicate clearly "I enjoy spending time with you, let's do it more often", slowly morph into a relationship out of convenience. Done.

I cannot understand NT mind-games and obsessive preening. Don't you get frustrated with it? And to think - someone who puts that much effort into judging you upfront is likely to keep judging things about you all your life, with no end to playing games... Stressful, no thank you.

Is that... the luminous horror from Tales of Maj'Eyal...?

Awesome.

Claiming that being a femboy is necessarily partially kink is harmful. Would you say the same about other nonbinary people? Is being a tomboy driven by kink? Is being trans driven by kink?

I think you're telling on your own views more than you're explaining how the world works. Identity exists separate from sexuality, full stop. Unless you want to revoke all trans and nonbinary identities from aro/ace people too.

And just in case you're just talking about how people view femboys - who cares? Some people view the LGBTQ as child-rapists, and we don't care what they think. We tell them they're wrong and to respect us. Same here.

Maybe. But multiplayer games exist. And people have a very high standard for what population a game must have for it to be worth playing. People will consolidate into singular pre-made titles, compromising on their desires like they do now, in order to have many other humans to play with.

Maybe AI can be convincing NPCs eventually, but people will want to play games with their friends. They'll find out eventually if another character is an NPC or human, and they will care.

Even singleplayer games will be subject to this, to a degree. People enjoy playing what their friends play - they like having the same experiences, they like having something in common to discuss, they like the shared experience that brings a sense of community to the fans of a single title or series.

Sure, people could make any game they desire, but it will be isolating. You're underselling the social desires and needs we all have. Maybe we'll end up with something similar to Garry's Mod and Roblox: connected gaming hubs where people can load up any number of experiences - but still being able to include their friends somehow. I think that is much more likely than the concept of a person sitting in the corner of a room with their VR headset, wilting away in a world of their own creation, having lost all connections that would otherwise surround them. Humans naturally fight against that. We'll experience things we're not familiar with, as long as we're experiencing them with other people.

I hope you some day learn that everything in life is made up of many, smaller, things. And I hope that gaining that knowledge empowers you to feel like you have control over at least some of the stresses in your life. And I hope that leads you to a place where you're not angry and lashing out at the very people you seek validation from. And I hope that when you stop pushing people away, you will receive the validation you need - that we all need, as human beings - and you can feel the relief you're currently searching for. And that some day, the comments in this thread will seem like a silly thing to have been upset about.

I hope you find the peace you need. Have a good day.

i still really don’t give a shit

Ok, don't respond.

i’m not going to engage just because you tell me too

Ok, don't respond.

repeatedly telling me i should engage on “burning books is bad” is the transphobic part.

Topics in life are nuanced and intersect. Burning one book with the reasoning that it's fighting transphobia does not nullify the other things that book burning represents. If book burning being bad is transphobic, then fascists are trans-positive. Clearly, that's not how the world works. An action is not defined solely by intent, but also by how it is received by others. You do not get to define how your messages are received, and part of human socialization is navigating how others feel about what you do. Communication is a two-way street, but you're demanding that only your way matters.

i don’t need to explain myself or my actions.

Ok, don't respond.

i don’t need to justify them to you or anyone else.

Ok, don't respond.

now please, could you leave me the fuck alone?

You could have exited the conversation by not responding.

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https://github.com/younesaassila/ttv-lol-pro

Edit: Nevermind, there's an extension hosted through mozilla now, so it auto-updates. Get that instead.
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/ttv-lol-pro/

The larger Monster is 24oz/700ml - the one with a screw top - and it has 240mg.