I've been using an app called Summit for Lemmy, and it feels very RiF-esque. RiF was the only way I used Reddit, and it's made the transition very easy. In fact, in some ways, I feel it's done some quality of life stuff even better than RiF did, like color coding comment chains, which makes it easier to keep track of who's responding to who.
Khotetsu
joined 2 years ago
I agree. College is really the first time in a school setting where the people you see on a daily basis are there because they share the same interests as you. You have the opportunity to make friends based on that, instead of the fact that you happen to live in the same postal code as them. This means you have the chance to hit it off with people from all walks of life because you all have one interest in common already. And those friendships can last your entire life and even possibly land you a job because you work in the same field.
In a similar vein, any game that forces your camera slightly upwards while you're going somewhere drives me up a wall. Like, I'm sure the devs want to show off the pretty world they made, but I want to avoid tripping over the rock right in front of me!
I think part of this is a result of toxic masculinity issues. I remember reading a comment by a trans man on how his friendships had changed after he transitioned, and while part of it was how his friendships changed with women he had been friends with before he even transitioned, he also talked about how his friendships with men were missing a major part that had made his friendships with women before he transitioned so deep - and that was emotional vulnerability. Similar to what you're saying, he found that it generally isn't socially acceptable for men to form true, emotional connections with other men outside of scenarios that emulate life or death situations. Things like hunting, or sports that were originally created to keep soldiers fit outside of war are acceptable situations for men to build that camaraderie. Outside of these kinds of scenarios though, men aren't allowed to be emotionally vulnerable with each other and make true friendships that go beyond a surface level, leaving them emotionally isolated and stunting their emotional growth and well-being. He also theorized that this is probably why men mistake women being friendly as them being flirtatious since women have that deep emotional connection in all their friendships, while men are only really allowed it with romantic partners, but that's outside the scope of this conversation.
My thoughts exactly. One of the reasons I came here was to get away from elitist attitudes and punching down at people. If I wanted that, I would've just stayed on ~~Twitter~~ X. Musk and his cult do plenty of that.
And this is why Republicans are so opposed to higher education. My dad grew up in a conservative household - like, so conservative that my grandad would respond to the question of who he was going to vote for with "I'm a Republican. I vote for the nominee," and it wasn't until he went to college and met people with life experiences that were different from his that my dad began to question the things he was told about the world when he was growing up.
It's a lot easier to convince you that your life sucks because ~~Jewish~~ brown immigrants are taking all the jobs and women won't date you because, actually, they're the sexist ones (and it definitely has nothing to do with the fact that you treat them like sex toys) if you've never been beyond 40 miles of where you were born and have never been outside of a town where everybody looks like you.
I disagree on the work ethic point, but that could be its own whole rant about how the concept of "work ethic" is fundamentally flawed in a society where many jobs simply aren't fulfilling and are only done for the carrot on a stick of being able to buy food and a roof over your head.
But on everything else, I wholeheartedly agree as somebody who came to hate the school system but loves to learn. It's not just a Gen Z and younger issue, though I imagine they have it even worse considering the pandemic. I think it's a flaw in how the school system is designed. School focuses on solo work almost to the exclusion of collaboration, and life just doesn't work that way. Society is a collaborative effort, and even working at a cubicle farm on a solo project, it's not like you can't talk to your fellow workers to help solve problems. Plus, the pass or fail mechanism of the grading system ends up punishing mistakes and either creates risk aversion outright, kids who don't bother because they've failed so many times that they believe it's not worth even trying, or those kids who do well without trying until they get to later grades and have no study habits, who then learn that if they're not instantly good at something, then it's not worth putting effort into because they don't know how to be bad at something long enough to get good.
I'm certainly no teacher, but I think the issue is that the foundational framework of our current school system was designed to create workers who could be expected to work on a factory line. People who could be given a short and simple list of repetitive tasks to follow, without the need for collaboration or anything more mentally demanding. Add in that many school subjects (at least when I was in school 15-20 years ago) lack any real-world context to their purpose, just "learn this because you have to," and I'm not surprised that kids also have no drive to dig deeper than a surface level understanding. I remember the mentality of "just remember it long enough to do the test, and then dump it for the next set of things you have to learn." It got me through high school.
I think there's still 2 broad categories of people who would drop Reddit in a heartbeat, depending on the circumstances.
Those who are stuck to Reddit because that's where their community exists, and those who just haven't been able to get over the threshold of understanding how a federated social media ecosystem works and the onboarding process.
The second category can be solved by making it simple enough for your average tech illiterate user to join a server/Lemmy as a whole, and I think the first just needs a large enough impetus to make a move - once communities hit a certain size, they'll naturally attract more people.
I know for me, I joined Twitter despite not liking the platform because like 90% of the artists I followed on Tumblr left to go there during mass "female-presenting nipples" exodus. If it hadn't been for those communities migrating, I never would've left. And when I left Twitter when the Muskrat bought it (and later left Reddit), I lost all those communities I joined for in the first place. Many of those artists are either on Twitter or Instagram, and that's it - and I sure as hell want nothing to do with either platform; and the people from those Reddit communities have scattered to the winds or are still there.