Yeah... I did not have a good time with that discussion, and thinking back I seriously regret involving myself in it (or at least listening to the part of my brain that insists on fact checking myself, which lead to reading some very... unpleasant scholarly papers...)
I don't really care what consenting adults do in fictional spaces, but keep that shit in fantasy, please.
It used to be that there was an unspoken risk that ignoring all these norms would result in your being summarily tossed on your ass in the next election. But thanks to Murdoch, Limbaugh, Stone, Gingrich, and all the right wing media pushing hyper-partisan, no-compromise, the-other-guy-eats-babies politics, combined with a court system that refused to rein in the lies that were poisoning our discourse for decades, eroded that critical check on political society.