So happy for you ๐๐๐
She claims it changed a month ago but never said it's over between us concretely, neither did I ask, so that's on me.
Dude.. Just no. If she was done with the relationship it was her responsibility to inform you. Don't gaslight yourself just because it's hard to be upset with her.
If you were in a relationship and she didn't end it, and then proceeded to date someone else, that's cheating.
She could have just told you, she chose to go behind your back. And it's not because she was scared of hurting you, if that was the case she wouldn't have cheated on you.
Good luck out there.
She had also expressed that she was ok with me seeing the pics I had of her, knowing well that many of those were wildly sexual (she even sent a :( when I said I'd delete them)
She's the asshole for how she's dealt with this entire situation. Those are mixed friggen signals. She sounds fucking greasy. Best of luck.
Okay... So based on this new info I'm going with YTA. You know this is his main hobby, you know he's passionate about it, you guys have talked about it in the past, why make drama? Why spend your time trying to make him feel wrong? If you don't want to be with the guy as he is, you don't have to be with him.
And he's either an asshole or socially dense. If he knows you're unhappy, and he's just letting the relationship drag out, fuck that.
Nah