BubbleMonkey

That’s the problem with being a millennial. All the things we “know” mostly don’t apply anymore, really. And whatever you manage to catch in passing is your new paradigm.. exhausting to learn, when the next gen runs at the speed of computers.

Things have changed a lot in ways even we don’t recognize, and like we used to call those people attention whores and whatever.. now we call them content creators, because they have a different medium.

But I’m glad to have made a difference :) “let people be people” is honestly the best and easiest advice to live by because we have records from thousands of years ago and they could have been written yesterday. And if we actually did it we’d have moved on from that :)

I think I understand our disconnect despite apparently agreeing. You seem to conflate the posters of the content for the consumers consumers of the content, I think..? But.. They probably aren’t the same group at all.

Sure, the person posting might be into it… moooooore likely they are into making people uncomfortable, whatever form, and that’s an easy way. And you know, we sort of need people to make those posts because we aren’t gunna seek it out otherwise?

Like the last super claustrophobic movie I watched, I watched it because people told me it would be fucking hard to watch.

Edit - have you ever looked at more general forums for phobias, rather than just super niche stuff? Reddit is a bad example but so is a single phobia.. you’d be better off looking at r/phobias (I assume that’s a place I’m just saying, general is the way)

Ok but if you are looking on Reddit, first of all you are whining to the wrong people about it. Most of us aren’t over there and don’t give a flying fuck about them.

But also if you expect every group to do everything, you are sorely mistaken as to the way the internet works and the way communities work, especially niche ones..

You aren’t in the Apple ecosystem here, this is the real world where people form the groups they want and they don’t give a fuck about your feels and that doesn’t make them less legitimate than whatever your ideal view of someone with a phobia is.

Grow up, we exist in the world and we make groups that feed into what we want to see and if you have a problem with that you literally have a problem with the way humans function in a social setting… you’ll learn someday that it’s so much easier to just let people be people. They will figure themselves out and they will like the content they like. You can’t change that, don’t bother. You’ll frustrate yourself because whatever you think people should do isn’t what they do in practice.

Best you can do is try to offer something better.

No, I know exactly what you are talking about.

Sure you might be right that some of them fetishize it or something, but… it could also be largely posted as an exposure channel…? Why else would you follow someone posting your trigger? Duh.

Idk maybe you are way more involved with those groups than I would be, so maybe you have some unique insight here, but frankly it’s not that different from other desensitization-themed groups that share shit without significant trigger warnings because you just expect to see your trigger posted there.

Who are you to judge what’s exposure therapy and what’s “fake-phobia motherfuckers”? Does it have to be paid for therapy? Led by someone with questionable credentials?

Let’s apply this to another realm.. are you not disabled if you aren’t diagnosed and in treatment?

I’m quite claustrophobic, particularly for caves and elevators, and still sometimes make myself uncomfortable with shit like the descent or reading about spelunkers getting trapped.. it petrifies me but, importantly, I’m not in a cave while reading or watching it, and that’s not something I’ll ever do, so I’m exploring it safely. It helps because we have all these really cool simulation mechanisms in our brains that work through the things we experience, and help us face them when we actually encounter them in our lives.

Exploring things that make you uncomfortable, whatever level that discomfort reaches, is really important for eventually overcoming it.

I would argue that pure aversion to things that cause discomfort is the far less healthy approach.

You don’t have to allow your family any sort of contact with your kids. That’s something you earn, not a right. Even for family, they have to earn that.

And you don’t have to be in contact with them so much yourself either if they don’t enhance your life.

You can.. fade away.. just take fewer calls, grey-rock them when you do talk, where you share minimal information, or just stop interacting with them.

You aren’t likely to change them; they’d have done that by now if they were going to. Best you can do is damage control and damage mitigation.

I just don’t talk to some of my family, like my dad. Idk if he’s even still alive because he wasn’t worth knowing. He detracted from, rather than added to, my life, so he isn’t in it. But you can be softer about it and still do damage mitigation, like making sure your kids are with friends for surprise visits or whatever.

No, cmon, please, living through significant impactful history is exhausting. We don’t want to do it anymore. Please just stop.

I’d love to be able to install solar but I’d have to take down trees that just got big enough to be worth having a few years ago to do that and they provide more passive cooling than I’d get power generation.

Maybe when I have some fruit trees to put in and a heat pump for cooling until they get big enough, but at best I could do batteries from the grid (tho my area is largely hydro powered so that wouldn’t be too bad anyway)

Well, now there’s 576k people who can do it as a class action :)

Unless it needs to be refrigerated, which it doesn’t afaik, probably yes.

The US navy did a study on “expired” non-refrigerated medications and found most of them don’t lose significant potency for a really long time. And I can guarantee even the chance of it working is worth it when nothing else is available. Tho if you have other options you’d be better served using those, as you want the most reliable dose.

I used to get random spam teams calls at work before I quit that shithole, so that’s already happening.