Lol. White breasted wood swallow.
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We are experiencing late-stage "American dream". The American dream is not a house in the suburbs and 2.5 kids. The dream is to become wealthy enough that you stand above the law. "Freedom" means exactly that. With enough money you can do whatever you want. Now we have the billionaire class of god-tier freedom. Their American dream is a nightmare for the rest of us, but their freedom is more powerful than our freedom.
Fair point. Like I said I know I'm not perfect. Believe me I understand addiction. That said, there must come a day when you decide you are no longer going to do a thing. You can wean all you want, but one day you are a smoker and one day you are not. It doesn't need to be more complicated than that. Yes it will suck, but your addiction has put your comfort on a credit card. That bill needs to be paid. You will be uncomfortable but that's the price.
Yeah I'm not doing any of that. I stopped smoking 18 years ago the day I said I don't want to do it anymore. She stopped smoking 12 years ago by just not doing it any more. Quitting is a choice to feel like shit for a reason. You choose to feel like shit every day with the hope that one day you'll feel slightly less like shit. You either do something or you don't do something. There is no such thing as "weaning" off.
This issue isn't rising to the point of leaving. There is nothing in the world that would make me leave her. I disapprove of her decision to keep smoking. I am disappointed that she knows how to quit and refuses to do so again. There is definitely an issue here, but at the end of the day I can't and won't force her to do anything. I am definitely not without my faults too. It pisses me off, but I'm not going to go all high horse on her.
But honestly, I don't know what to do about it. I do have a low level resentment about it, but we really do have a great relationship otherwise.
I won't tip over $10 regardless of how much the bill was. One person took my order, someone else brought my food, a third person refilled my drinks, someone else will clean the table. I don't care if you're pooling tips. Combined I took up 10 minutes of time distributed over multiple people. $10 is enough for that service. It's a tip, not a commission.
And then they came for me