AnarchistArtificer

I understand why you feel that way, and I'm certainly not trying to persuade you that you should feel optimistic about the world. It sounds like giving up hoping might be a thing that helps you to cope with the awfulness of the world — it's reasonable to want to shield oneself from inevitable disappointment.

I think that at the core of my own resolve to keep resisting terrible things is my sadness at how it's not helpful to try to persuade people like you that things are worth fighting for. I think that, at my core, I agree with you. We're both so jaded by what we've seen that it's hard to imagine anything better. To some extent though, I don't need to — my own coping mechanism is to hold onto the abstract hope of future people being able to effect change (and to think in terms of how I can best set the groundwork for them). Effectively, I am setting aside the question of whether people are worth the effect now, and imagining a future where people are worth the effort.

I recognise that it's irrational, but it helps me to get by — in terms of my own life, I've found it's a mindset that helps me to grow in a way that I like, so it's a useful guiding principle if nothing else. I emphasise again though, I'm not trying to persuade you of anything. There is so much awfulness in the world that I'm just glad that you've been able to continue existing, even if you feel hopeless about things.

This is an area where failure is not a binary. As bad as things are now, it can always get worse. The more people give up, the worse things will become.

That makes sense. Although for what it's worth, I don't recall having any problems with Deep Rock Galactic, so whatever issues you had with that may be specific to your particular set up

Something I laugh at myself for is that before I realised I was actually bisexual, I did consider myself to be faking it. I was a teenager who had heavily internalised the male gaze, and set too much of my self worth according to the attention I got from the opposite sex (which was not very much — I was an undiagnosed autistic with bad anxiety). I was aware of the trope (mostly in media) of (usually implicitly straight) women making out with other women to be titillating to men. I concluded that this is totally something that I would do, when I got to university.

I later heard about how problematic this trope is, and felt really guilty because even though I hadn't participated in it actively, I felt like I was contributing to the ambient societal biphobia. I later learned that many straight women would not enjoy making out with another woman, even if it was to get male attention. In hindsight, I think perhaps that it was in fact, me who was titillated by the idea of me making out with another woman (but it took me a while of digging through internalised biases to realise this)

It always makes me laugh when animals sit like this. It also makes me envious

This is going to be a pretty fast and loose definition of blog, but I like sharing cool stuff. Some of these links will link to a particular post on that blog — this is if there's a particular post I really like there, or what first led me to that blog.

"A Collection of Unmitigated Pedantry" by Historian Brett Devereux. https://acoup.blog/2019/05/10/collections-the-siege-of-gondor/ He's especially good at military history, which is why I linked to his series on the Siege of Gondor from Lord of the Rings. I also enjoy his series on pop-culture misconceptions around Sparta

https://statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu/ It's a blog by the Statistician Andrew Gelman (and others who guest write). This is one of the more academic ones, so only likely to be fun if you're a particular kind of nerd

https://gsllcblog.com/2019/08/12/part1statblocks/ Tabletop roleplaying games and law crossover blog

https://scatter.wordpress.com/2022/01/30/sex-as-a-social-construct/ Sociology blog. Quite academic, but still fun. Found it through Andrew Gelman's blog above

https://www.bookandsword.com/2022/04/16/science-as-verified-trust/

https://www.edwinwenink.xyz/etc/web_paleontology/ Unsure if this site is a blog, but certainly this post has many links to old-school web pages that are cool

https://gretzuni.com/ Dense philosophy stuff about technology. This person is an academic. N.b. I am a scientist, not a philosopher, so I am less good at vetting philosophy takes. I enjoy it though

https://explorationsofstyle.com/2011/02/09/reverse-outlines/ Blog by an academic who specialises in teaching writing to university students. I like her stuff.

https://www.bookandsword.com/2022/04/16/science-as-verified-trust/ I think this person is a historian too

https://thetechbubble.substack.com/p/the-phony-comforts-of-useful-idiots Blog by economist Edward Ongweso Jr.

https://www.cantgetmuchhigher.com/ Blog about "the intersection of music and data". Also has a podcast.

https://ludic.mataroa.blog/blog/i-will-fucking-piledrive-you-if-you-mention-ai-again/ This post went viral last year. Some people don't like this tone of writing, but I found it quite cathartic, and have enjoyed other posts from the blog

https://datacolada.org/ "Thinking about evidence, and vice versa". These guys do a lot of cool stuff on science methodology, like meta-analyses. They were so good at their job that they got sued. I really like them

https://karl-voit.at/ Blog about personal computing information systems. This guy was the one who first piqued my interest about Emacs a bunch of years ago (Emacs is a very old text editor with an insane amount of customisability and an even more insane learning curve)

https://www.baldurbjarnason.com/essays/ "Web dev at the end of the world, from Hveragerði, Iceland"

https://meaningness.com/ It's kind of blog that some would call pretentious as hell, but I like its vibe

https://wordsmith.social/elilla/deep-in-mordor-where-the-shadows-lie-dystopian-stories-of-my-time-as-a-googler There's not too many other posts on this blog, but I really enjoyed this one

https://theluddite.org/ "An anti-capitalist tech blog"

https://blog.thea.codes/winterblooms-tech-stack/ Cool resources on DIY music synthesisers

https://www.math3ma.com/blog/what-is-category-theory-anyway Maths! Especially category theory. The difficulty ranges from "pretty darn accessible" to stuff that's way above my level. I like the pretty diagrams though.

Okay, that's all that are coming to mind right now

So pretty. I'm glad you asked this question, because I got to see this image

Out of curiosity, what games? I'm not going to throw unsolicited advice at you — I'm just wondering because all of my games have been astoundingly easy to get working on Linux.

There's already decent scholarship in this area. One such book is the recent "The AI Con: How to Fight Big Tech’s Hype and Create the Future We Want", by Emily Bender and Alex Hanna. I haven't read it yet, but I've heard good things about it and it's high on my reading list.

Thanks for sharing this. I've still got quite a few chapters to go, but I wanted to comment this thought before I forget it: it's so incredibly striking how powerful the small acts of kindness are. I've cried more at the little gestures of kindness than at all the cruelty.

You should almost certainly go to a tailor. It makes a world of difference if "professional" is your goal. It can be tricky to find a good one, but when you do, it's incredible. It can be surprisingly cheap too (although building a wardrobe that has high quality piece that are worth tailoring can be quite expensive. This is best done gradually)

I think that this is especially true if you're on the larger side, because a greater amount of body mass means that qualitative differences in where we store that mass will be more apparent.

Something I liked about going to a tailor is I could show them clothes that I liked versus ones I didn't (or explain what had been bothering me about certain clothes). They were able to suggest alternatives.

Good recommendation. I tend to be most comfortable rolling up sleeves to my forearm, but I wonder whether this might also help.

Do you have a favourite pair of cufflinks?