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Hi bees. I recently was looking around for info about hip growth and hrt, and read that it may happen, but even if then not really noticible. However for like a week now I feel my hips hurt, like substencialy and they give me trouble walking, stadning and stuff and even sleeping. And I am almost sure it is growth. But isnt it too painful? Should it be that way, and can I ease it somehow?

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I have noticed that when I walk and sway my hips more it is less painful to walk, but it takes getting used to

Thanks in advace :3

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Any and all concerns about medical issues can and should be directed at your doctor! They're the only ones with enough info and qualifications to comment upon this.

Hip growth as a response to feminizing HRT can and does happen in younger patients. Hips don't set completely until the early 20s, so if you're starting HRT at or before then, you can experience both hip growth and your hips shifting in position. Heating pads and anti-inflammatories might help. Be sure not to push yourself too much if you're in pain, and as I already mentioned talk with your doctor if you're worried about the pain level.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I am 20 now and started my hrt at 19 and I am 7.5 months in. Also to what doctor should I go? Coz idk which one would help with this issue the best

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Are you DIY HRT or was it prescribed by a doc? If it was prescribed by a doctor, that's who you should go to. If you're DIY, that's a more difficult question, but you should find a trans competent doctor.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I have it prescribed

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

This is likely to be your pelvic tilt. As you go through female puberty, your pelvis gradually tilts position in a way that gives you a more feminine gait and makes your butt look great. It hurts like a bitch but goes away eventually and leaves you looking fine. Your hips aren’t likely to hurt as they widen, and it’s unlikely that the bones will change at all. You will gain more fat in those areas though, so you’ll still look the way you want to.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

even if I am 20 bones wont change?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I’ve heard some unsubstantiated claims that hips can widen a tiny bit at that age. It’s not worth measuring though. You will pass

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I hope I will pass, and Id hope they can grow some amount. That would make me look more fem as shoulders wouldnt look as wide then

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Focusing on those details will drive you to insanity. Be patient with yourself. You will be okay. This process just takes time.

I transitioned when I was 23. Now I’m 27. I never get misgendered. HRT is magic, and your dress, makeup, and behavior dictate your passing more than your body shape. Trust me on this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I mean I already pass sometimes, and I still have facial hair. But I full transitioned socialy, so the clothes and behavior plus confidence may be helping. However I am still selfconcious :c

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It takes time to get over those feelings. I find it helps to remember that most people are very self-centered and in their own little world. They'll take anything they can get to confirm whatever they assumed about your gender. Let's say you're androgynous but wearing a skirt and have long hair. They'll see someone with a skirt and long hair from behind. You turn around, and your face is feminine and maybe wearing makeup. OK, there's some confirmation, definitely a woman. Then you open your mouth to speak. Your voice training has been going great and you sound lovely. Even more confirmation. They're not looking at your shoulders. They will actively ignore any peach fuzz or facial hair, because that can happen to cis women. They'll even ignore narrow hips and small underdeveloped boobs. Because they already got confirmation of your gender, they don't want to spend any more effort thinking about it, and will move on as fast as they can.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I am not sure about that, especialy that I am a long way from getting fem voice and no they do not ignore facial hair, like 90% dont, and when I try to present fem they still call me mister when they see or hear me

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You’ll figure it out. Good luck!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I hope so. But now my feelings are quite grim

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I can tell. Don’t let it make you do anything you’ll regret. Time is all you need.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

what do you mean by that?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I mean, I remember when I felt exactly the way you're feeling right now, and that it absolutely gets better. You will figure everything out for yourself and you're gonna feel great. Just please.. keep on keeping on. Don't do any self-harm type things if you can avoid it. Rely on your support network. Remember that you're super fucking strong and amazing too! It's not easy being trans, and you're out here being brave as hell. People often say that but they don't really understand the weight. I do. I think you are gonna be just fine long-term.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

right now I am coping with my depresive states by weed and alcohol, but friends are getting worried about that

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Practice moderation. The alcohol makes your body suffer and that can possibly actually slow down your HRT.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

but its the only thing that brings me ease

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's substance abuse, and a serious concern for your health. Practice harm reduction as much as possible, particularly with the alcohol.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Idk how really

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

For alcohol: drink fewer than 3 drinks per day, always give your body 2-3 days without alcohol to recover, and drink a glass of water for every drink.

1 drink is equal to:

  • Short 6oz glass of wine
  • 1 12oz can of beer
  • 1 1.5oz shot of liquor

Drink no more than 3 of these units per day and make sure you take 3 days off per week so your body can heal. Drink lots of water.

For cannabis:

  • Use edibles instead of smoking when you can
  • Use an herbal vape
  • NEVER get high before driving
  • Avoid being high while at work or school
  • Don’t smoke right before bed if you’re going to be sleeping less than 8 hours
  • Hydrate!
[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You will, don't worry. I started at 36 and feel like I pass for everything except my voice.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I hope so

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

i think this is relatively normal and probably the pelvic tilt thing the other poster mentioned. i checked with a transfemme friend and she told me the biggest thing she did was get a new chair that worked with how her body wanted to sit now. she also tries to get up and stretch / walk around more often

aside from those things, you can take over the counter painkillers or try heat on the area, but some of it will just be riding it out, i think

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

how does it tilt tho? Like I cant really visualise what is happening there

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

i think this picture is a reasonably good illustration of what's going on https://imgur.io/rsUha?r