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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/dlvesey on 2023-10-02 19:11:37.
Sorry if this is a really repetitive question, but I’m just wondering if anybody here has some insight.
I’ve never had a girlfriend, and I guess it’s one of my main insecurities because I’m getting to the age (18+) where a lot of people do. Girls have complimented my looks before - though not very often - and some have expressed interest in me over the years, but it hasn’t been clear enough for me to say definitively that I’m “good-looking.” There are many occasions in a group of boys and girls where the girls mainly talk to my guy friends, and I feel pretty left out (though it could be because I’m quite introverted, and talk more in one-on-one situations).
I know looks don’t really, REALLY matter, that confidence is perhaps the most crucial characteristic of an attractive man, but maybe having a more positive outlook on my looks might make me more confident. So: to men that are “handsome” or maybe men who have a very handsome friend, what are things you noticed that made you realise that?