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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ekolanderia1 on 2023-09-22 08:16:46.
I(25m)work at a sub shop as a shift leader. As long as shit gets done, I really don't care. A relaxed/joking atmosphere always makes shifts go by faster...except there is an issue. Crew member, lets call her "J"(f17) was making a joke about her body count being high, and I responded with "low prices attract more customers". Easily a 4/10 when it comes to how bad jokes can get.
Got a call the next day from another shift leader, giving me a heads up about J saying I have been making inappropriate comments to her, especially with her being a minor. This trickled up to the GM, and the DM.
Had to have a very uncomfortable conversation, where the only response I really had was "no I'm not a predator".
Leads into today, I ignored every comment/joke she tried to make unless she was asking a question directly related to work. Forced everyone to be 110% on task, which led to us being done with things early enough that I sent J home early from her shift.(other person was scheduled to close, J was not. J was the only option to reduce labor) J is now upset that I am no longer friendly/casual when she is on my shift.
I see it like this- you escalated a personal issue into something that threatens how I pay my rent. How I buy my groceries. So, to avoid any possible overstepping of boundaries I am acting purely in a professional manner/Taking guidelines to the letter.
I really hate doing this though. They aren't a bad kid, and it makes shifts so much more stressful than they have to be. Is there a way I can approach this differently?
Edit: Literally not a single comment has answered my question, or even attempted to.