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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/One-Resident-6785 on 2023-07-07 16:41:15+00:00.
BIL (46) just had his house burn down to complete ash. Nothing was salvageable. He didn't have insurance. I'm a SAHM to 3 kids. Our youngest is rowdy as hell. He's currently being tested for ADHD. We allowed BIL to stay here, despite me hating this guy. He's been here a week and hasn't been back to work because he's currently "too depressed". My husband works 12-16 hour days, depending on the job that day, and is gone a lot- leaving me to deal with the BIL day in and day out. He's currently staying in the guest room.
For the past 2 days he has been making comments. Every time I sit down, he will make a comment about me being lazy. He's laughing when he says it. Clearly thinks he is making some sort of great joke. Not sure if it pisses me off because I already hate him or not, honestly. But the tip of the iceberg definitely hit full force today. My son is off the walls and just being a handful in general and my BIL keeps making comments to him and telling him to calm down, be quiet ("will you shut up?"), or even following my son around outdoors telling him he's a brat. I tell him to stfu multiple times and stop speaking to my son at all. I then go to make my kids lunch and BIL comes out and says "where's mine?" I tell him he's a grown ass man who can cook his own food. He goes "ain't you the woman of the house?" I ignore it. But then my husband comes home on his lunch break and he tells my husband "she ain't much of a womanly type is she? Couldn't even make me lunch." Again, says it while laughing and "trying to be funny" but I've had it at this point and told him to get the fuck out of my house. He looks completely blindsided, as if he hasn't been purposely pushing my buttons all day with my kid or me in general. My husband, who already was given the run down on a "one more thing and he's gone", did back me. He's also spoken to BIL about the comments but it's always a "she can't even take a joke, I was just playing". BIL says "I ain't got no where to go!" So I told him to go live on the street with the garbage for all I care.
He takes off. I told my husband under no circumstances is he welcome back here with his sexist comments and trying to parent my kid. He thinks I may be taking this too far due to how much I already hated the guy and given the fact that I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant and already irritable and says he feels bad because his brother has nothing right now.