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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ThrowRA-reaa on 2023-09-20 16:20:29.
We've been together for 3 years, we both love the outdoors and animals, I've always known she wants to have animals when we buy our own house (which realistically is only a year or so away). But I thought it was just like some veg plots, chickens and maybe a pig. She's always wanted that. Although after some discussions recently she's really adamant she wants all of that plus cows, goats and essentially live on and be fully sustainable on a farm.
That sounds amazing but I don't want to live my life running a farm. she wants to homeschool our future children, so that'll be a lot of work for her and plus we'd be taking care of quite a lot of animals. I'm happy to help out in all aspects of that kind of life, I've never shied away from that, but my issue is all of those animals sounds like a lot of work. I'll want the weekends to spend with the her, the kids, and when they moved out I'd want to spend more time with her and do what I want as well. Then I'll obviously help her sometimes with the animals but I just don't want all my time at that point in my life taken by animal care and I'd feel awful if she'd have to do so much more with the animals than me.
I don't want to hold her back from having a farm if that's what she wants but am I missing the point here and maybe over thinking how much work it'll be?
TLDR: My partner wants to essentially live on a farm living self sufficiently but at that point in my life I'd want more freedom than just looking after animals. Am I over thinking this or will it actually be a proper life style I'd need to commit to?