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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Alternative_Tea_2568 on 2023-09-18 07:16:34.
As the title says, if i ever want to have a conversation i have to start it, and i count a reply like 3-4 hours later then when i messaged to count as they messaged first, because they, responded, not started. now for mental health reasons without telling friends i have been hospitalized, and Ive had this thought for a while, and today after my best friend, who is also my crush finally told me, "Move on" that broke me. so is it a bad idea to see if any of my friends will message first/how long it takes them to see if something might be wrong with me.
TLDR: never get messaged first unless people think im in trouble, so plan to go invisable for a week and see what happens.