Doesn't really matter, as long as the cycle is broken. Engagement with the same toxic patterns with different people isn't breaking the cycle. It's not different when we do it
this post was submitted on 01 May 2025
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is it breaking the cycle? it sounds to me like like leaving the cycle and then living in fear of ever connecting with anyone because you're afraid that the cycle is the only way you can be
this is the way 🖖
Not that I chose to do it, but I'm glad I atleast broke the cycle this way.
It's a process known as junior high.
Having some distance while working on yourself is probably better. Maintaining friendships at least somewhat. Everybody needs and deserves human connection. If you believe you are toxic to other people and harm them, then limit the amount of time per person. But remember, it's not only your responsibility, if they are bothered by your toxicity, then they also have a responsibility towards themselves. Do not make that decision for people, maybe you are not as toxic as you believe.
Being toxic is also not a permanent state of being. People change, and they do it all the time.
I have friends that struggle with mental issues, they can be too much sometimes. It is however always nice to spend a couple of hours here and there. Life is not black and white. You are not either toxic or not toxic. Most people can be pleasant for a couple of hours once in a while.
If you believe you are toxic, then fake it til you make it. Be fake positive and fake nice for an hour or two, after a while it will become second nature, and then it will become who you are. If you have views that you consider toxic, then challenge them. Use UnpopularOpinion or other forums to discuss then. If your views differ from most other people, then maybe it's something you should challenge. Either you convince people or you are convinced.
If you realize you said or did something toxic, just apologize.
Just giving up is harmful towards yourself. You deserve happiness.