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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Lumbertech on 2023-09-04 14:15:53.
Hey y'all, I'll try to make it simple and short.
I have a beloved couple of friends, we're all in our mid-late 30s.
We've been friends since early 2000s then they moved to another town pursuing dreams and hopes. They were a lovely couple with artistic-professional backgrounds and a nice, clean, smewhat always eccentric lifestyle.
They have been unemployed and living in terrible conditions for over 6 years. Their house is filled to the brim with dirt, trash, junk, drugs, rotten food, no heating, broken furnitures.
They got their gas cut out and they cook food and heat the house with a wood stove that is turned into a personal incinerator of plastic, paper and anything they find to burn.
They became drug addicts, sustain themselves with not-totally-legal activities, burned bridges with a lot of people but my fiancée and me, they lost almost everyone including their own families.
We tried to help them so many times.
We hosted them at our place for months to help them find a new rent (they were kicked out), helped them find jobs (that they couldn't keep), helped them with food and grocery shoppings (they don't want healthy food since they live only on junk food) and trying to cut down their videogame and drugs addictions. They started neglecting their hygiene, personal care, interests and they're fueling each other with more and more unhealthy lifestyle.
She developed multiple severe mental disorders (currently on therapy), he ended up with a severe anger management issues and sometimes he destroys things and insults anyone.
Sometimes they have moments of clarity where they break down crying wondering how it was possible for all this to happen.
My heart in shattered and I really want them to be happy and "normal people" again.
I have a feeling they do not want to get saved and they're just trying to destroy themselves.
I am afraid someday I'll hear about their death on the news.
How much should we help someone we care about and that doesen't want to be helped?