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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/nouseforaname68 on 2023-09-01 06:12:47.
I lost my mother last month. She lived in Florida but I was out of state. My sister called me and told me she’s ready. I decided to go down to Florida. I left on a Thursday at 5pm. I had to stop at a hotel. Doctor came into her room around 9pm and told my sisters she has a couple hours max to live.
Next morning I’m headed down, I was about 4 hours away. Doctor came in and asked my sisters “who is she waiting for” and my sisters said it was me.
I finally arrived around 2pm. I immediately rubbed her arm and told her it’s okay if she has to go. That I was going to be okay and I will never forget her. I was there maybe 7 minutes; she started to breathe rapidly, then just suddenly stopped and passed.
My question is this: was she aware I was there? Did she have any semblance of consciousness? How did she hold on until I got there? Was she in any pain? Was she scared? I’ve been an engineer for over 20 years and I can’t compute this. I am unable to understand how she waited for me, and it pains me to think for a second she was in pain. Can anyone help me understand this?
I’ve had nightmares about this and would do anything for some level of peace or comfort. Any help anyone can provide would be greatly appreciated …