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Trans Megathread for the Week of November 11th, 2024 to November 17th, 2024 (hexbear.net)

submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Xenia, the fox girl mascot of Linux, was first designed in 1996 by Alan Mackey. She was meant to be an alternative to Tux, the official mascot.

She had fallen into obscurity, but was noticed by a Twitter user in 2019 and was redrawn as a fox girl. But as it turned out, Xenia was originally meant to be male! The original creator, Alan, was cool with this, saying "It matches the transition of a lot of the smartest, nerdiest Linux users I know" and "And sure, you made her trans!".

So now we have a trans Linux mascot. And I think that's neat.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (8 children)

Hi everyone! I (Luna) made this account just in time for a bit of an announcement in terms of my gender thoughts:

I've decided to go with the flow as of late, and the flow took me in a very interesting direction. I've given it some thought, and I realized something: What is gender to me? What do I want out of it exactly, and what do I consider gender to be? Sure, I wanted to present more feminine, and I felt the best way to do that was to be a woman. Is that the case, though? It was a pretty lousy assumption, to be honest. I knew I wanted to start feminizing HRT, but does that inherently make anyone a woman? No, they're a woman if they want to be, simple as. Do I want to be a woman? Maybe, but at the same time, what do I really want out of it specifically? Do I worry about playing the role perfectly at every turn, am I bothering to play a role? Isn't that what I'm trying to avoid? Shouldn't I just be trying to be myself? Why do certain things, like coming up with a name, seem so difficult for me, why do I struggle to identify with anything, why do I feel like she/her pronouns work some times and not others, why do I feel like other pronouns work some times and not others (still hate he/him though)? Why does gender seem to encroach on my sense of self at times? Am I trying to conform to a binary I wasn't meant to conform to? Why does this give me such doubt, why do I feel doubt about this stuff? It's not even about my transness, I know I am, I've known that I am, and I don't even see myself as cis at the worst of times anymore, but where does that leave me?

Recently, I've been exploring new pronouns. I asked you all to vote on pronouns for election day, and I honestly vibed with all of them. Okay, maybe not pup/pup's, but would it really piss me off if someone used that? No. I realized all of the pronouns out there (minus he/him) sound great, and feel like they could fit, and I don't mind being called by those pronouns. At the same time though, there are times where it feels like nothing fits. This sums up my thoughts, it feels like no matter what gender I try to realize for myself, no matter what I try to identify as, something goes wrong. I feel trapped, I feel like there's always a limit, even if there isn't necessarily.

A bit ago, I said that the label of demigirl fits me best, and it was the label I first identified with after my egg cracked. What I forgot, both in memory and mention, was that my egg didn't originally crack that day a few months ago. It cracked much earlier, and I had already internalized that identity. I may have presented cis (and not really been a fan), but the identity itself felt like it fit me. I'm fucking weird, I don't fit into anywhere, anything, and that probably applies to gender. I may feel dysphoria at times, may feel the need to cling onto gender in a desperation to have a sense of self, but I am not my gender. I am a human being, with the same level of identity as any other, regardless of what my gender identity may be.

So, it's time for the gender reveal gender-reveal . You may have been getting an idea based on what I have been saying, but I think that being agender is simply where I want to be hexbear-agender . By forsaking gender entirely, I eliminate the endless struggle. I can present however I want to, do whatever I want to (although I could as any gender, this is how it feels for me) without feeling like my sense of self is constantly shifting. I am who I am, beyond gender. What I want for my physical appearance, or how I want to act in the moment, doesn't change that.

I feel like it's going to be tough to let go. I could just be in the middle of a very long 10% agender arc. I could wake up tommorow and decide I want to be a woman again, gender is a fuck and I'm not going to pretend I understand it. For now, though, I'm going to identify as I want to, as I feel most comfortable. I know I do this at least every other week, to the point where it could be a site meme, but I really do feel that every time I start to grasp something, it's like a breakthrough. If this one sticks, cool! I've found it out. If it doesn't, cool! I've still found something out. So, that's me. I'll leave a bit of extra content/context below, but I'm excited to see where my journey brings me, and I always have been, even if it's really confusing ralsei-pout

I'm making this account in an attempt to shift my account from a gendered name to a username. It should also hold up if things are to change (I have no confidence that it won't). Anyway, I felt like I needed the fresh start. A lot has changed in the past few months. Also, I've noticed that how I act greatly reflects how I present, and that includes online. So, changing my account might change that as well.

If I backtrack on this in a week, I'm blaming the carousel hexbear-genderfluid explosion

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (3 children)

I haven't posted the last couple days, but I have been feeling good. Like myself again. Just haven't had a lot to say or talk about. There's been a couple things on my mind, but they're not really worth getting into (especially when overall I'm doing well). But, in good news, a friend reached out to me. This is the friend I came out to a little while ago, but we hadn't talked since then. Sounds like he just got busy with life stuff. Also, going to do something I've been needing to do for a little bit now but have been putting off cat-trans

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I misread the "Linux" on her shirt as "Ligma" multiple times. Deadass. I keep having to double check.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago

She's running Ligma on that laptop. Sorry, meant to say Ligma. Oh my gosh, I meant to say Ligma thurston

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (5 children)

a second uninstall has hit tiktok gender-reveal

reason being

i really thought that if i carefully curated my algo then i could avoid the shit that burnt me out in the first place.

while there's so many trans users on there i'll miss seeing, the feed equally rewards engaging in content that I like and dislike. end result being a fuck-tonne of radfems talking mad shit about anyone that's not a cis-white woman. the general uptick in 4b bullshit (australian state media even had a fucking article about it) isn't helping that either...

so i think the healthiest thing for me to do rn is to just disengage

imma try to work past my lifelong posting anxiety and lurk less, i have gay takes that must be heard

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago

going outside in the same make-up i passed out in yesterday because it's brat summer

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago

Webfishing clocked both me and my sister. The first chest she opened awarded her the pan title, and the first chest I opened awarded me the bi title. How did it know these things? This doesn't change the fact that I'm still going to run the Good Girl title though.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (6 children)

Bureaucrat posting has been a wholesome ending to site drama

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (8 children)

might have gotten a wee tipsy last night

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (13 children)

Goodnight comrades, here's part of the code of conduct that i think about alot

Be aware of your own enjoyment of the site.

If you find yourself no longer having fun, do something else. There are many different comms on Hexbear, and many different ways to shitpost and have fun.

If the site as a whole is just not cutting it for you, take a break. We'll still be here when you get back. Nothing should compel you to stay.

https://hexbear.net/code_of_conduct

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

unchecked transphobia! at the Irish web fishing server:( just got the game and now I never wanna play it again. im prejudiced against the country folk on this island ngl. fuck me for wandering out of overtly communist online spaces for like, 20 minutes i guess lol. it's bad out there.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Sick of being constantly ignored by my friend whenever i try to reach out

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (7 children)

!CW Venting, social dysphoria:!<

!Feeling kind of shitty and just generally lost in my transition. There's a lot of stuff about it that feels daunting and that I don't know how to move forward with. Lately I've been wishing I had a cis girl friend who could help me out, and be a kind of 'big sister' I could go to for advice. But most of the women I'm friends with are very butch, and haven't felt super equipped to help me. And the one friend I have who has been able to help, moved multiple States away, and while she's been able to help me with some stuff, the distance has impacted our friendship, and I'm just feeling sad about the whole thing!<

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

Watched ~~part of~~ a voice training video and now youtube thinks I'm serious. Stop reminding me of my weakness ohnoes

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

CW dysphoria:

spoiler

Feeling gross and not me today

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Well I'm starting Naltrexone today. I really hope it's enough to keep me out of rehab

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (5 children)

misgendering

Cissies see me breasting boobily and still refer to me as a guy. Wild how oblivious they are

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (2 children)

my cool mental health

doing a good job holding in the scream right now. i have to do two things today and it is literally destroying me

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago

In my wife’s Snuggie; got that girl stank going on

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (4 children)

The radical left has converted me from a puppygirl to a catgirl :3

Edit: my PFP was briefly slightly nsfw hope nobody saw that

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

doggirl-growl

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

tiddies hurting good today agony-wholesome

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

When I'm around new people who I've introduced myself as my chosen name to, I feel comfortable and amazing and more able to be myself. But when I'm around people I already knew before beginning this journey, I feel this weird tension and I'm not sure what to make of it.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I was absent for a few weeks. Sure glad decades didn't happen in the meantime clueless

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (2 children)

i am constantly bullied every time i want to say something on here. people from all around the world gather to call me "pee pee girl" and push my face into the dirt...

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (2 children)

volcel-judge trans-gun trans-undertale

anti-volcel aktion

Yet again confirming that girldick is pretty and wonderful

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Lost so much shit since I started wearing women's pants. I keep not bringing a purse because I think I won't need it then I just feel my wallet slip out of my pocket after a minute of walking

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (9 children)

girl facts I wish I knew sooner: apparently the longer your hair gets, the LESS often you're supposed to wash it wtf. i thought i was supposed to wash it more. this probably explains why my hair is always going fucking everywhere

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago (6 children)

OH MY GOSH I almost forgot to mention some progress I made today. I was trying to set up Bluetooth in the car, and it always repeats certain phrases back at me. I dread it for this exact reason, and I've avoided setting it up until now with that being one of many reasons. However, it had to happen, so I went to do it and put on my best fem voice. Imagine my shock when it spits my voice back out at me, and it sounds like a mature woman! I don't even know how I did it, and I don't want to listen to it again in case it ruins what might be magic, but in that moment I felt such intense euphoria. I then enjoyed the convenience of having my music on Bluetooth while no longer having to deal with my static-ridden aux cable.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago (5 children)

British people don’t know anything

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago

Misgendering, sexual harassment
spoiler
I have to do a lot of interacting with the public as part of a socialist thing, and I've realized the hotter I look that day the more people go out of their way to misgender me.

So they're failing at making me feel bad about gender but I still feel icky because its literally just so fucking overtly trans coded sexual harassment

I need to find a social space to use for dating but ugh, I've gotten so picky, except the folks whove made me picky are comrades and I don't date comrades! Ugh! I have a partner but sometimes there are aches that are outside their wheelhouse.
Does anyone else get a really weird mix of dysphoria and euphoria while looking at Chappell Roan in drag? I'm trying to sort out my feelings there but getting swamped by "pretty gender-non-conforming lesbian ahhhh" when I try to.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

The latter is a vent, the former is talking about ~~fucking~~ pronouns

transphobia

Everytime I see "he or she" it tickles me, in a bad way. Why was this popularized, or used at all, when "they" is not only a better catch-all when gender and/or pronouns are unknown, AND "they" makes the sentence more fluid and feels more grammatically correct? I don't know if the cis are alright...

ableism, slurs mentioned

Well, the radlib co-worker strikes again. Always get a bad feeling about him whenever he talks about certain things. It's like, he's ALMOST there, but has to ruin it with some sort of lib garbage. Or, even better, some GAMER WORDS just to spice things up, ya know? Just casually drop the r-slur, it was totally necessary to make your point known.

Like, as a queer person, why are you using ableist slurs when many queer people are neurodivergent? Why are you even using slurs in the first place when it's something you've probably been on the receiving end of? Long story short, shouldn't have expected anything less from a radlib, but these kind of things just piss me off. Why do people insist on language that has been used to hurt others (AND ME) when it's so easy NOT TO? ralsei-angry

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago

im playing animal crossing new horizons again comfy

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago

Interpersonal relationships are not helping me whatsoever so I've decided I'm simply going to stop being lame and simply become good. pineapple-surf

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