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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Fat_Trashpanda on 2023-08-31 10:50:11.
I've been on reddit for a month and I've noticed the immense amounts of posts in regards to people being unhappy their significant other hasn't proposed within 2 years, but more importantly I've noticed the advices given differ immensely towards a person in a long term relationship depending on whether or not they're married to their partner.
Person, married, together 8 years will ask "Partner wants me to do 50/50 childcare for their child from a previous relationship what do I do?" And the responses will be filled with "how dare you not view their child as basically your own child atp". While a person, unmarried, together for 8 years asks the same question, but gets a whole bunch of "You're not married, you shouldn't have to lift a finger for their child".
Being from a culture where marriage isn't seen as all that important anymore, it's baffling. What do people feel changes with a marriage certificate? Do people believe you can't be a family unit without it? Is your partner worth less before marriage? What's the deal?