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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Disastrous-Phone-658 on 2023-08-30 21:56:30.
I'm married for almost 20 years and have 2 kids that have just turned adult status, both 18 years. Over the years myself and wife have had some ups and downs, but we've always stuck together. When the kids were young my wife had an addiction to alcohol. But this was put down to previous trauma, she was abused by her father when she was a kid. The trauma continued throughout the years, and sometimes it presented as alcohol abuse, over the counter drug abuse, cutting and other forms of self harm.
Over the past 10 to 12 years I've been with her in counselling sessions, in and out of hospital and in and out of psychiatric hospitals. Nothing seems to be working and I'm completely exhausted with the situation. I feel like anything suggested by the health service is not working to help and I'm loosing my mind. With bills pilling up and me being the only source of income (both 18 year old at college) I feel like this is the end, as I find it even difficult to look at my wife.
Do you think getting a divorce help me get on with my life?
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
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