Quick update! I've been pretty busy with life and some new and unforeseen struggles lol but so far this has happened:
I've done nothing with the Arduino. Likewise, I started looking at some of the books, but I did not have the brain power at the moment to keep on learning/retaining the info. I'm coming back this summer, though, because I did some automations at home and I want to see how much I can accomplish while being offline (not saying I'm walking around with a tinfoil hat, but I want to try to enjoy tech without being constantly being tracked).
I definitely entered a rabbit hole that sent me straight to linux (I was just using Ubuntu once in a while and now even my wife's laptop runs on linux!) and now I repurposed and old laptop that runs NixOS and is our home server and hosts Home Assistant with some useful and some silly automations, Grocy, Immich, Music Assistant, Jellyfin, shares media and folders through samba and WebDAV and let us connect when we're not home through Tailscale. It's been pretty empowering for a noob to be able to do all this, although it might not sound as much for literate people like you guys, lol
My next stop is some cheap solar panels that let me run Home Assistant OS on a PI5 (?) and now that I know better how NixOS works, probably re-do our home server on a new machine that's also cheap but does not eat as much energy as an old T530.
I wanted to write back since it's been a year, I wanted to let you guys know how it's been so far. Any questions and recommendations are welcome, and it might not look like it from this message, but all your replies were super helpful (still are, I just snatched a website and another book from the just now!).
Take care!