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I am not a native English speaker and I have sometimes referred to people as male and female (as that is what I have been taught) but I have received some backlash in some cases, especially for the word "female", is there some negative thought in the word which I am unaware of?

I don't know if this is the best place to ask, if it's not appropriate I have no problem to delete it ^^

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[–] Simon 1 points 1 year ago

People that say 'females' out loud in public are quickly assumed to never get laid. It's okay to use when talking or writing about science topics and such.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Let me break down the explanations given, because most of them boil down to this:

As a noun, yes, because it's mainly used in biology like that ("A hawk female") and thus can come off as dehumanizing. As an adjective: No ("A female cashier", "A male cashier")

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I've switched to Lady for a lot of descriptors that I used to use Female. And a lot more They. Or just a physical description, like the person with the dark hair.

Edit: I'm probably trying harder than I need to. I just want to accommodate people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How about: "The weaker sex" instead?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

How about "the fairer sex"?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Friend, people will get offended by anything and everything. Didn't worry about it. You just be you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

You can use it to compare humans with animals. It is often used in animal documentaries. You can use female/male as a name in general. Then you have it very clear in a little bit insulting style. On the other hand it's not really insulting and nobody can expect from a second or third language guy to speak in a non-offensive style like US- or UK establishment people like to do. This would be racism. 🀑

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

It’s not negative per se , but quite impolite, not least because a woman is so much more than her gender.

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