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Are The Straights OK?

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Is someone holding these poor souls hostage and forcing them to be together?

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wtf is wrong with straight people "joking" about hating their happy married lives?

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[–] spencerwi@lemm.ee 9 points 2 years ago

It seems mostly like a boomer thing to do, honestly; I don't really hear "I hate my wife/husband" jokes from folks my generation (Millennials) or younger. Honestly, I mostly hear "I hate myself" jokes there.

A lot of the "ol' ball and chain" etc jokes tend to be more frequently casting the wife as the enemy instead of the husband, too, so there's some definite boomer misogyny as key element.

[–] Still@programming.dev 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

the joke is that when you marry someone you have to make compromises on everything cuz you're not just you anymore your a marriage, I think it's sorta the evolution of the "I hate my wife" meme. I've seen many a people give up something the love and probably shouldn't to get married and start a family. another thing is that many people feel forced into getting married and having kids cuz they don't know what else to do with their lives.

edit: I also can't see the image in the post for some reason

[–] Starbuck@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I’ve always felt that over years of being, you and your partner sort of average out. Like a whiskey becoming less harsh. I personally think that my wife and I have picked up different qualities from each other.

Now, if you don’t respect your wife or like her as a person, then that could end up as something like self-loathing because you wouldn’t see this as a good thing. Now you have “changed” to be more like her and you hate it.

At least, that’s my theory.