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I'm in the process of "ghosting" my job (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So, I've worked at my current job for around three years. I had a really good crew when I first started, and one by one, they all fell off for various reasons. My favorite coworker went and got a job at my old job (same field) and I got stuck picking up the pieces.

There are two owners. A husband and wife. They have been spending a lot of time out of state essentially on vacation and ignoring the shop. Also, my current batch of coworkers are not a good team. They're not helpful and just don't have their head in the game. I wouldn't care so much except it all falls to me to pick up the pieces when they don't pitch in.

Anyway, I took a meeting with the old place I worked at, and got a good offer. Plus, my favorite coworker from the current job works there, and I'm excited to get the dream team back together.

Why do I feel so bad about leaving? The bosses have been completely unavailable and I get no support anywhere. Hours are going down to zero and I can't afford to live.

I haven't exactly been vocal about my problems, because I've been trying to act like a leader and rally the troops

I guess I'm just looking for kind words of encouragement from internet strangers.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

When you have your other option 100% locked in, tell the owners of your current place you're planning to leave (if you liked it at one point, no reason to burn bridges) and -- here's the fun part -- make them an offer to stay.

Make it such a good offer for you that you would love to stay if they bite. Obviously you include a big pay bump, possibly more control over the workplace/hiring, better vacation, whatever, go nuts.

If they agree to it, you just got yourself a big-ass raise and you don't have to move. Maybe you can even hire that coworker of yours back (shit, make giving them a good offer a term!) and you get the best of everything. Tell the other employer about the "counter offer" you got from your current employer and they'll either see why you're backing out (again, no reason to burn bridges) or maybe offer you even more.
If they don't agree to it, you're going to feel better about leaving, and you'll have shot your shot at a big raise.