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I met bar guy's friends tonight and there was one there I could tell that had a little crush on him. You can sort of tell by the way someone interacts with another person, because she was only interacting like that with him.
I find out more about this girl, and she's pretty much got the exact same interests as the dude, and the way they interacted was just effortless and it seemed like they had a great connection.
Compare that to me, I pretty much don't have anything in common with him, we don't like the same movies or music, or things in general. I am a shy and awkward piece of shit who for some reason has started feeling nervous around him as well. I lose my sense of self, it's not like I had one to begin with anyway. I'm an average Joe, an uncultured swine.
The thought of breaking up with him makes me incredibly sad. However, I don't want to force what isn't there. I think he is only with me because I gave him a chance. I could be the most stale person in the room but because I was there for him when he needed it and can meet his physical touch needs, it's alright. That's why I don't have a clear gut feeling on how to proceed.
All this coupled with uni kicking my ass, not sleeping enough, low iron, ADHD, brain fog and financial strain is absolutely fucking killing me.
I just wish things would get better!
News flash: most couples have zero in common with each other. Common interests are great and all, but they don't make a relationships. Shared experiences and building interests together is really what counts. I would say there is probably a good reason why this bar guy and his friend are not together, despite how much they have in common. There's also the societal notion that women and men can't just be friends which is completely not true. Don't get in your head about this.