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Are we going to actually allow this type of "debate" stuff to stay up? (beehaw.org)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Wasn't it established this type of behavior isn't acceptable towards lgbt people? Dismissing their hurt caused by others and clearly gas lighting them?

The replies to this comnent are disheartening https://beehaw.org/comment/314559

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

It's also just exhausting to see this stuff over and over and over, when you're the target. Leaving it up when it's so clearly just bigotry with some icing on top just lets it keep hurting people and changes the culture to one that tolerates that hatred if it's said ""politely"". It lets the bigots feel like they can hide under the " be nice" rule even though tolerance for intolerance isn't supposed to be what that means.

It also means that if I hope something blatantly bigoted is deleted, I'm now incentivized to not reply to it at all, just leaving it to stand without objection and with however many upvotes it gets, since apparently my replying is being treated as a reason to keep the bigotry up. That just feels gross.

I will absolutely leave here if this kind of thing keeps being tolerated. I want a place I can exist without having bigotry thrown in my face, not somewhere that I'm expected to put up with bigots in order to maybe, possibly, somehow educate them. That is not my job; I just want to exist without having to be constantly on-guard.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

We've talked about this a bit in depth in our philosophy documents, but not nearly enough in depth to get all of our thoughts on page in a coherent manner. We're working on accelerating a piece of mod philosophy on this specific topic to help you and others understand where we sit on issues like this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Thank you for your reply. May we message privately please? What you say is valid and I agree you and others shouldn't have to continues being fighting for your right to peacefully live your life even inside of "safe space" particularly just makes this extra awful. Them allowing that content to stand up violates the whole spirit of a " safe space", they claim to be aiming for.