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They are the one wearing a band T-shirt, advertising that they are fan. They opened themselves up to a conversation about it, and bringing up the person's relationship experience is 100% irrelevant.
Asking someone to name 5 women who trust them, and then challenging those choices as wrong, when the subject and the people they are naming are totally unknown, isn't winning the argument.
This is why women get accused of being unfair debaters.
A conversation and challenging someone are two different things. They didn't open up a conversation, they challenged the person with the T-shirts interest. They deserve to be challenged back, especially in a way that calls attention to the fact that they are abbrasive, intolerable, or worse.
My opening question is always: "Have you listened to that album?" You can take that as a challenge, or as an opening to a conversation. I suppose the tone used while asking is the most factor. I always ask it in a friendly manner.
Have you listened to yourself speak? The time, effort, and cost of listening to an album are nowhere near the time, effort, and cost of choosing and purchasing a shirt. Unless the album came out 3 days ago and isn't easily available online yet that question sounds ... unpleasant.
Every college student I've ever known has a Spotify account, and the classic rock albums that are usually on T-shirts are easily available on Spotify.
What? You wear shirt with stuff on it that you don't want to talk about? That's weird
A "no, I just like the art" is a valid response. But fighting strawman that probably are very rare irl and being mean to people who just want to talk isn't
Some people just don't want to have a stranger come up and initiate a conversation with them out of the blue, even if it might be about a shared interest