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How do you stand up to bullies? All kinds of bullies? Especially starting from beginner 10-15 year old levels? I'm too afraid of being roasted and haven't practiced. (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Also, what are your favorite comebacks to bullies?

I need to stop trying to change unchangeable people. I've been through so many bad faith people who dehumanize at every turn whenever they feel they won't get consequences. I need to make there be consequences for dehumanization.

Someone said to me "What if there's a predatory creep that you don't know how to socially shut down, and they feel emboldened because you don't roast them?" I said that's happened. They said i need to practice in lower risk scenarios. Maybe I get roasted for calling someone an asshole. One day that can turn into me and the dehumanizer going 50/50, me and them both getting half the roast. But to even get there I have to start by being roasted by bullies.

I won't get anywhere if I don't start clapping back and getting roasted many times by many assholes.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Depending on the situation just roast back. You can also just call someone out for being a dickhead in a crowd.

Just say "Why do you have to be such a dick?" and don't back down, if they keep going, just keep asking the question. If you do that in a crowd, you'll get them to either acknowledge them being a dick or back down.

If the bullying is isolated, start with leaving and trying to get to a crowd so you can pull off step one, or just leaving. If that's not an option and they're being aggressive, pop them with a sucker punch or a kick to the genitals then ask them again.

If you're able to get them to bite on the "Why are you being a dick" approach, just maintain a jovial demeanor and laugh at their responses until they stop. You having that attitude puts them on the backfoot in a social setting because people naturally side with the more calm/laughing person.

Basically turn their bullying into a weakness and take the high road.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Idk what to roast back. I have thoughts amd judgements, but I might take months before I cam put into words what I would've like to responded.

"Why do you have to be such a dick?"

That would make them feel proud. They like it about themselves.