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Autistic Literal Speech vs. NT seeking hidden meaning (www.instagram.com)
submitted 2 years ago by MadgePickles to c/[email protected]
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Instagram reel transcript: "So you know how autistic people just talk and we literally mean like exactly what we say?"

"So like I realized that when I'm talking to a neurotypical person, even when I'm saying exactly what I'm saying, they're looking for like, the meeting underneath it, which is nothing."

"So the other day at work...I had a feedback session and one of the things they told me was that my communication wasn't clear... And their example was I asked 'What is so-and-so's job?' And she said, 'I knew exactly what you meant. I knew that you meant, 'She's not pulling her weight. Why is she on the team? Why haven't you fired her yet?"

"And I was like, hold up. I asked about her job was because I didn't know what her job was and I wanted you to tell me what her job was. And she was like, 'Oh. Well, that wasn't clear and you should really give more context when you ask a question.' And I was like, 'Okay..?? so...'I don't know what her job is...What is.. her.. job?"

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[–] MadgePickles 1 points 2 years ago

I've been fermenting a thought about this topic recently that I want to get others comments on.

It has to do with late-diagnosed autistic folks coping with living in a NT world so that even when we encounter other autistic folks we don't trust that they are actually speaking literally. Like even after having conversations with them about this subject.

I have two close relationships where I struggle with this where they are so anxiety-ridden from over 30 years of coping mechanisms that we are constantly having communication struggles from them worrying about and even inserting hidden deeper meanings into my literal speech. Even after months and years of friendship and many conversations about how I am literally always saying exactly what I mean.

It's like they've both coping mechanismed themselves into permanent anxiety about the secret hidden meanings that NT insert into speech that their brains are traumatized and they can't turn it off.

Does anyone else relate to either side of that?