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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/olivia9812 on 2023-09-19 21:37:50.

I find dating very hard and I think I might be asexual so i'm giving up on the idea of finding a partner, what can help me live a happy life alone?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ToomuchToby5 on 2023-09-19 20:55:02.

When I was a child my parents would force me to wear really uncomfortable denim pants while I worked with them in a farming field. Since then, I have grown to have a visceral reaction when my skin touches denim. The last time I put denim jeans on I felt as if my body’s temperature went up and somebody placed cactuses on my skin. I know it’s irrational but I cannot force myself to wear denim jeans, they are hell to me. However recently a guy told me that I would look really good in them. I told him I cannot do it and explained why. And he gave me a horrible look and told me it was a red flag and that I was being too sensitive. It really screwed with my mind and I’ve been trying to use denim again but I just cannot do it. How did y’all get used to denim? I want to improve my style but I cannot torture myself by putting on denim jeans.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/PlaneLegDawg on 2023-09-19 20:41:54.

Or is it just a different kind of trouble than I'm used to.

It blows my mind whenever I read something where a woman says she's having trouble dating. Just the other day I saw a video where a woman said she'd pay 5k to whoever introduces her to her future husband. Payable upon marriage.

She wasn't bad looking, she was a white collar professional. I just do not understand how she has any problems at all.

Is it just that she was extremely picky with her partner? That sounds like a straight up luxury to me.

If you watch any sort of social media, you'll often run across posts where it makes out dudes to be so touch and affection deprived that they'd take any girl with a pulse to be their partner. And while that's a slight exaggeration, the underlying sentiment is pretty damn true.

A lot of guys are extremely deprived of affection and intimacy and just don't know what to do. It's posted over and over on Reddit and other places online to not bother women in everyday life, they don't want to be hit on for the 20th time today. So that really just leaves dating apps, which is trash and a hellscape for most dudes.

I don't get it man. It seems like dating is ez pz for women as long as they are average or better looking. Is it just that the "problems" are that they can't find their picky choice?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Cube2D on 2023-09-19 19:06:48.

Is Saul his lawyer or something?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/cautiousherb on 2023-09-19 20:31:25.

My friend and I had a big debate about this. We were walking a few months back and I saw a really great double daffodil in a bed of daffodils. We live on a college campus that gets a lot of daffodils in the gardens every spring. Not farm level, but they’re definitely around.

I saw it and immediately wanted to put it on my windowsill. I asked my friend, "Would you think less of me if I took this?" and their answer was yes, though they wouldn’t have said anything if I didn’t ask. They said that it wasn’t okay, that the flowers belonged to the public, and were for them to enjoy, and weren’t for personal use. Not only that, but if everyone took a daffodil using the same logic then there would be none left for anyone to enjoy. I argued that this one daffodil would make me very happy over weeks and would liven my day along with anyone who saw it on my windowsill. This one would bring me much more joy than it would if it stayed in the bed and people walked right by. Plus, I was having a rough time (who isn’t, though?) and it would cheer me up.

We weren’t able to come to an agreement on this and was wondering what Reddit thinks. My friend was so passionate about this that I didn’t grab the daffodil.

Obviously grabbing the daffodil isn’t crazy morally wrong. There are clearly worse things. I guess the real question is whether it’s wrong at all, even the slightest bit. Would you think less of someone if they took a flower from a public space?

Usually I would agree with my friend but in this case the weighted happiness absolute value for me taking it was in theory higher than having it stay public.

Edit: The daffodil would actually live longer on my windowsill than it would have in the park. Also, my windowsill is very public. I live in a very frequently-seen area next to a very active public space.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Amazing_Cherry_6352 on 2023-09-19 20:03:50.

My partner of 7 years just inherited a large ( not life changing, but considerable ) amount of money.

We don't live together, but for the last 5 years, I've been responsible for all his shopping / cleaning etc..

To make it clear, I don't expect money from him, we're both pretty poor (*were both pretty poor), and I fully back his decision to gift more than half to his 2 kids.

he went on a massive online shopping binge - a lot of it was crazy junk lol- and I asked him if he could grab me some chicken wire ( don't ask), and an electric blanket, cause mine just blew up and I can't afford a new one.

He said no. Am I wrong to be a bit put out?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ApprehensiveGuard292 on 2023-09-19 19:21:56.

I feel like my female friends are generally better at this. I really enjoy how open I can be with my female friends and how receptive to listening they are.

Sometimes that's doable with my male friends but it's far more common with my female friends. I also tend to have closer, more intimate conversations with them than I do with my male friends.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Mad_Season_1994 on 2023-09-19 18:12:16.

I just don't get what the big fuss is about going to a beach. Maybe it's because my family always went on vacations when I was growing up. But as an adult, I just don't see the fun in spending a week at a resort or on a cruise ship while the staff there are severely underpaid and probably mistreated by snobby (likely American) tourists. I'd rather be in a city or a countryside.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/KlutzyNotice7312 on 2023-09-19 17:45:40.

If we get caught with a cell phone, or if the teachers even see it in our pockets, they are allowed to confiscate and charge a varying amount of money. They do not give it back unless paid. Is this not theft/extortion? As far as i'm aware the Student Code Of Conduct isn't a good explanation because it isn't legally binding, as I am a minor. Isn't the school keeping the phones also a liability? If a students home was broken into or burned down and the student couldn't call emergency services wouldn't it be a liability? It sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen to me, but I may be wrong because i'm not too well versed in the law.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ActualEmu1251 on 2023-09-19 17:24:51.

A friend asked me today if I am reading any good books lately and I told her I have been listening to audiobooks...she said those don't count as reading. So I am curious what other think.

For what it's worth, I have a 30 min commute each way and audiobooks pass the time. Also, I read documents all day and my eyes get tired of reading at the end of the day.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Inevitable-Lie2404 on 2023-09-19 17:24:54.

I recently got a bad cold and my boyfriend hasn’t done anything physical with me other than a hug from behind. He said he doesn’t want to get sick and doesn’t know what I expect of him. Is this normal? With any of my past relationships, despite them being sick we would still kiss and cuddle so that’s just what I’m used to. What do normal people do?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Throwaway_Ian_ on 2023-09-19 17:16:22.

I recently got dumped but before that my ex was talking about getting married and have kids so I have considered it before . I’m 40. I’m in no rush but I like to get married one day . I’m hearing from married people that once you get married say goodbye to sex life or oral sec is only for dating why the hell she does that when you are married ! Is this true ? With my previous exes ( I don’t have any kids ) that we dated more than 2 years ( not the one who just dumped me ) we had great sex life but we had other issues so the relationship went south .

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/LeVinoBon on 2023-09-19 16:41:27.

I’m partly deaf, and I’ve recently started to go into the office for work. I’m someone who grew up in a deaf community, so your “hearing ways” (s) aren’t familiar to me!

Today, I decided to eat a salad, and I feel like I can hear myself crunching but… then I got paranoid that other people would hear me chewing away. Especially in a cubicle office…

So, would you guys hear the crunching? How much do you guys really hear? Haha

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/dulcified_soliloquy on 2023-09-19 13:50:13.

So anytime someone mentions mass shootings in the US and how the US has way more mass shootings more frequently than any other country, there's always someone to chime in saying something along the lines of "well, most of those mass shootings are gang related, so the statistics are skewed." I don't get it, and I was born and raised here in the US. Like, okay sure most mass shootings are gang related, but shouldn't it be all the more reason to implement gun control? To get guns out of the hands of criminals and off the streets? Sure, a criminal will still try to find a way to get a gun, but wouldn't it be more difficult for them to do so with there being over time fewer and fewer guns? Like how other countries still have gangs and gang violence, but because of stricter gun laws most of those incidents of gang violence don't involved guns.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/WaitThatIsYourFinger on 2023-09-19 15:39:13.

They randomly bumped into each other at a bar earlier this year. I find it particularly icky because he said she was a little flirty with him back in high school. My sister defended him by saying that "all young female teachers playfully flirt with senior boys in a harmless way". I mean WTFFFF, that's not normal behavior right???

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/BcIGotHighBCIGHBCIGH on 2023-09-19 14:52:29.

Why do ppl argue over social media? Have you personally ever had your opinion changed from someone else's argument on social media?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ThrowRA_Magic560 on 2023-09-19 14:32:04.

As the title states, my girlfriend(gf), has been really deep into an MLM company nuskin since she was 17. She has been really sucked into Nuskin as a brand affiliate. TBH I don't know much about the rankings in there she says she wants to be an EBD or something.

As I started to find out more about the company and what she's been doing. She says she wants to become a millionaire like the top earners in the company which I know is close to impossible. Which I also suspect is why she was so easily sucked into it. She has many "mentors" who she says earn a lot from the company and she even goes to all the Nuskin weekend meetings, sharings, events, and even overseas events. I have been to some events and meetings and I can only say it's very similar to that of a Christian church where they invite speakers to share their "success stories" and try to bring other "non-Nuskin people" along.

As soon as she graduated from polytechnic last year, she did Nuskin full time. Her parents are old(over 60) and have many health complications but are still working, she is an only child. Personally, I feel that her throwing away the stability and potential career of a normal job wasn't exactly the best move given her current situation, especially since she had no work experience other than a 3 months internship while studying.

End of last year I was able to convince her to try and get a job first just to gain some experience and put something on her resume. 6 months and 1 bad boss later, she came to me saying she wanted to try to do Nuskin full time again but for 3 years with her saying she was confident she would make something off it.

I strongly believe that at her point in life, she should be trying to build a career, learn, and experience as much as she can while she's young which I hope many can agree with. I'm just afraid of how she was so easily tricked into MLM and is so heavily dedicated to something we can all agree is really not a good idea to be involved in. We have talked about her Nuskin obsession many times and sometimes it feels like I'm getting through a bit but then will be back to square 1. It especially doesn't help when her mentors try to rope her in deeper, encouraging her to try harder to be like them, and at some point, they even tried to recruit me. Any ideas on how I can help her see reason?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Salt_Sherbert_7921 on 2023-09-19 13:58:35.

My son just turned 24. He dropped out of college 2 years ago because he said he wasn't finding it interesting. He's been unemployed ever since he quit his retail job shortly after leaving college. He stays in his room all day, drinking and gaming, that's all he does. I don't think he has any friends, I haven't seen him leave the house in weeks.

I'm at a loss of what to do. I've forced him to go to therapy but he doesn't seem to be getting better. We've tried different therapists but none of them have ever been able to help him. My wife has suggested we try threatening him with eviction, but we live in a rough part of town and I just can't bear the idea of throwing my son out like that.

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To everyone suggesting I get tougher on him, I've tried but I'm scared of going any further. My son has self-destructive tendencies, he's attempted to end his life in the past. Everytime I think about going hard on him I imagine what i'd do if I wake up one day to find him dead. I don't think I could live after that.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/_tatersncorn on 2023-09-19 10:32:57.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Another_User007 on 2023-09-19 07:53:09.

I am currently up at 1AM writing this because I really do not want to go to school when I wake up.

I absolutely hate school with every fibre of my body. Every day feels the same. Just assignment after assignment and I feel no reward for any of it. Homework is absolute BS. Teachers don’t realize I have a life outside of school. I don’t even remember any of the stuff I learn. I always just want to go home and do something I actually enjoy doing. It seems like nobody else is interested in anything that I like. Every time I mention something I’m interested in, everyone acts as if I am weird for liking said thing. Because of this, I’ve always kept everything to myself and never ended up making true friends.

I could go on forever about why I hate school, but I feel like that’s enough for you to understand how much I hate it. But thinking about how much I hate school had me thinking: Is life after school this bad?

I’ve always been told I should cherish my school years because when I’m older I’ll “wish I was in school”.

I’ve always thought that was BS because when I’m an adult nobody can force me to go to any school and I am free to do what I want. I can find a job actually want to do and get paid for it, unlike school.

Or am I just setting my expectations too high? Are these truly the best years of my life? I really hope it isn’t because if so, life sucks.

But to reiterate my first question: Does life get better after high school? Or does it depend on the person? Idk.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Middle-Gas3531 on 2023-09-19 06:35:48.

I'm a guy, almost 30, been in a handful of relationships, been cheated on a couple of times. Even before being cheated on myself, I never once cheated, helped someone else cheat, or even been tempted to do either.

I feel like everyone you ask will say cheaters are the worst or that cheating is horrible and inexcusable, but at the same time it's so common that most people who say that are cheaters themselves. I don't understand why it's so common, even in people who seem sensible and intelligent. I don't believe it's something you can do "on accident." I understand seeing an attractive person and quietly appreciating their looks even while in a relationship, but I'm not a fucking ape, I don't get overwhelmed with an urge to fuck someone no matter how hot they are.

I hate hearing peers/colleagues talk about their cheating, their "sneaky links" like it's normal and acceptable. It makes me want to give up on love forever because everyone seems to think it's okay to cheat. I just don't get it. If you want casual sex, why on Earth would you agree to be in an exclusive relationship? Furthermore, why wouldn't you go for people who are unmarried/single? It's not hard. It's like these people are going out of their way to hurt others when it would be much easier to get their gratification without hurting anyone. Am I naive? Is there something wrong with me?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Yeehaw-Libra on 2023-09-19 07:28:13.

This is something I've (24/F) struggled with a lot in adulthood, especially after having my son. I have no issue going above and beyond to make sure his needs are met but I can't even convince myself to remotely take care of myself in the same manor.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Buttered_Hotdogs on 2023-09-19 06:35:31.

Companies have been putting the squeeze on regular people and everybody feels it. Wages are down, costs are up, we all feel like we're drowning. Life is a grind and nothing makes sense anymore. My question is, how did things get this way? Was it a natural trend we simply didn't catch until we boiled alive like frogs? Or is there some set of laws or actions that set this in motion?

It's safe to assume that as long as the people calling the shots continue to profit enormously from it, they're not going to use their power to reverse the flow of money back to working people. That's just not how people work. But realistically, what would it take to return things back to a state where it's not just a constant fight to stay afloat? What realistic chain of events, could actually reverse the direction of this?

Surely things were worse than this through the industrial revolution before labor laws and standards existed. How did we get out of it then, and how does our situation now compare to that, other than in magnitude?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/HeyMyNameIsDylan on 2023-09-19 05:08:06.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/throwanon31 on 2023-09-19 05:06:07.

I personally know 5 people in their mid-20s that have bought houses in the last two years. How? None of these people are particularly wealthy, and the houses are pretty nice. One of them is even single. Have they just been saving their entire lives? I ask because I come on Reddit, and everybody is saying how they’ll probably never be able to afford a house. Is it just a coincidence that everyone I know my age is buying houses? Because I’m jealous.