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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Financial_Currency91 on 2023-09-07 10:59:10.
I have a friend from work, really nice guy. He's one of those people who will leave everything they are working on to help you, even if that means they will have to stay longer for their own assignment.
He's married to a mean girl (in his own words), she's narcissistic, selfish and extremely mean to others while being "nice" to him. She hates his family for absolutely no reason while he's not allowed to say a word about her family. She has no friends and he's not allowed to hangout with his friends unless she's also hanging out with them.
She says things that he wants to hear but never acts upon them. He was just venting so I didn't want run salt to his wounds, but after listening to him for some time I politely mentioned "why is he with her?" He said "it's too late now, she's too dependent on him and he can't just up and leave". Obviously I called bullshit on this because they've been together for only 6-7 years. Just to add that he's an immigrant and comes from the community with lowest divorce rates, probably that's what stopping him?
So back to my question, can you justify staying with a mean person just because they are nice to you sometimes?