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I know the more I make, more people expect me to just pay for everything because 'I make so much'.
Ive had people demand I pay for their vacation (flight and hotel)...just because.
Oh they have a car issue "Can I pay you back later?" (They never pay back)
"Im a little short for groceries, I need food!" (Proceed to buy junk food and high quality produce they never get with their money) (And again Im an ass if I ask to be paid back, cause what I expect them to STARVE!!)
Oh shit, they dont have money for rent, how many times Ive gotten this one. Just 50, 100,150,200,250...and keep slowly creeping up. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WONT PAY IT,ILL BE HOMELESS BECAUSE OF YOU!!!
Even had my neighbor demand (not ask, demand!) I pay for their car cause theyre 3 months behind and its about to be repo'd, and itll be MY FAULT! (with them yelling at me on my porch).
I know I had to stop being nice about lending, cause everyone else never wanted to stop 'asking'. So yeah, I cant give an inch or people will just go for the full mile.
I find it to be the opposite, I make enough that I haven't checked my bank account while making a purchase in a long time.
My friends are almost offended when I offer to cover dinners and nights out. I'm not trying to show off with my buddies, I just know $400-500 isn't a lot to me and for them it's a week's pay but I really like hanging out with them.
So I try to compromise in that I'll cover dinner if they cover bowling or something like that.
your friends are good friends
That's a good point. It's the eternal struggle over who pays for dinner. If you're good friends, everyone wants to pay, the only difference is capacity.