Man, I get no good feelings even if I did great. Productivity and achieving goes gives me zero positive reinforcement and it absolutely sucks. Even graduating college, I was just glad that I didn't have to go back. No sense of accomplishment whatsoever.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (11 children)

That's because you're not doing it for yourself, you're doing it for others.
Do things for yourself, with no expectations from anyone else, and then compare the feelings.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I did it for myself and felt the same way, just relieved. I'd even like to go back for myself but that's not enough motivation to produce the energy with which to start, let alone have a prayer of finishing.

[–] [email protected] -5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I've been told anxiety is a symptom of low self-esteem. So if -and it's a very big if- one manages to love and respect themselves, the anxiety will disappear on its own.

The idea would be to first work on yourself and get closer to your own expectations of what you should be. And only after that pursue the external avenues of life.

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