Man, I get no good feelings even if I did great. Productivity and achieving goes gives me zero positive reinforcement and it absolutely sucks. Even graduating college, I was just glad that I didn't have to go back. No sense of accomplishment whatsoever.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (11 children)

That's because you're not doing it for yourself, you're doing it for others.
Do things for yourself, with no expectations from anyone else, and then compare the feelings.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's the hard part, the expectations come from me.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 2 years ago

Yes it is hard. It simply is. Life itself is hard and we only make it harder for ourselves.
But it's not hard-coded in us. It's a habit and habits can change. Only that it takes time and actively trying to.

Whether having high, low or no expectations, everything is allowed. The only rule is that of cats: "If I fits, I sits."

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