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Not ethically, and I wouldn’t qualify the results as a date.
Lol. I'm not a fan of online dating but I wouldn't call it unethical.
That’s still just asking someone out.
What? No it's not. Trust me that's not what Henry is talking about. That's an algorithm that matches people in an environment where there is much less chance of rejection or ruined friendships. It's not at all the same. Neither is flirting / suggestions and allowing the other person to ask you when and if they feel ready. Neither is using a matchmaker.
There are so many ways to meet people without going up and just asking them to date you. That works well for a subset of very attractive people but can severely isolate a lot of people.
Online dating still ends up with the requirement of asking or being asked the question “so, you want to go out sometime?” in order to get a date. Nobody in an online dating app is any more or less obligated to say yes or no than they would be in person.
Edit: and a matchmaker is just having someone else ask for you.
Damn - that's deep.
It’s not. It’s super basic.