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‘There were no warning signs’: what happens when your partner falls into the ‘manosphere’?
(www.theguardian.com)
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I don't care what excuses you want to pull out of your ass about the absolute horror for young men growing up in a world where women aren't just sex objects and kitchen appliances. If you support and cling to the words of a known sex trafficker and rapist like Andrew Tate, you are a complete and utter piece of shit. And any pathetic excuse about loneliness or feeling left behind goes right out the window there. It's like men are on a mission to reinforce and prove all of the negative stereotypes right. Fuck these pieces of shit, I wouldn't waste my piss on them if they were burning alive.
I know this kind of attitude can feel righteous and satisfying. But, it's exactly the kind of attitude that drives people towards pieces of shit like Tate. I'm not saying you have to bend over and make assholes feel welcome, but having a little empathy can go a long way. Pushing them away so aggressively just contributes to a bad feedback loop.
The whole reason the manosphere is easy to get into is because it is, on the surface, one of the most welcoming and validating spaces for men to be in. Thanks for giving attention to that with your comment.
The manosphere is "welcoming" the same way an abusive partner is "welcoming", and both are for the same reason.
Abusers are often very charismatic and make you feel really good at first It's how they can keep people around for years and years.