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[–] [email protected] 19 points 7 months ago (5 children)

blamed women for not dating me instead of (correctly) identifying myself as the problem (low self esteem, depression, etc)

I don't think you should blame women, but isn't it the case that society provides fucked up standards for both men and women to be judged against, and that trickles down to some individuals being socially ostracized? Maybe it was all your fault, but that's not something that can be generalized.

That and you really come across as blaming yourself for your depression. Maybe you were just a miserable loser and it was just a mindset problem, but having a mental disorder is nothing to blame yourself for.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Maybe you were just a miserable loser

Hey don't call me out kitty-birthday-sad

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I was offering it mainly because I thought it wasn't the case. People usually don't spend significant portions of their life in a funk without there being some diagnosable mental problem involved (whether inborn, traumagenic, or otherwise).

You're not just a miserable loser heart-sickle and I like your posts.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

People usually don't spend significant portions of their life in a funk without there being some diagnosable mental problem involved (whether inborn, traumagenic, or otherwise).

I definitely have mental problems, but I don't think anything out there can help me (including therapy) and I don't know what to do anymore.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

I certainly can't help you. I think one thing that is good about therapists is that, even if talking to them doesn't help inherently, they can often use their great amount of knowledge about you to recommend something that might help you more, like psychiatry or support groups.

But people have the ability to change for the better, they always do until they die, and that includes you. As a stranger on the internet, I have no idea how to help you, but I am certain that you can be helped because you're a human who can communicate and take in new information.

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