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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/beepboop24-7 on 2023-09-12 20:07:52.
On multiple occasions when I (20's F) have been driving, my partner (30's M) has reached over to honk my horn. One time it was because someone didn't go at a green light, one time because someone was going "too slow" on a curvy road (he said this was dangerous), and the most recent time he reached over and gave about 5-7 additional honks after I gave the standard tap on the horn when someone didn't go on green.
I told him it was very rude and unnecessary to honk that many times and he said he didn't care what the driver thought of us because they were an a-hole for not moving. I got pretty pissed off and yelled at him that that was beside the point, he has done this before, and that it's not ok for him to honk my horn for the same reason it's not ok to mess with any other controls while I'm in the driver's seat. He gave me kind of a half apology, didn't seem to understand the real reason I was upset, and just went inside when we got home.
He seems to feel perfectly justified in his behavior. I feel like it is extremely rude and unnecessary for a passenger to honk the horn, barring some kind of emergency situation, in which case I feel like the horn is kind of an afterthought.
ETA: Thanks to everyone who has commented so far, there seems to be a pretty clear consensus.
To be completely fair and make sure I'm not leaving out important details, we were bringing home an aquarium coral and he said that we needed to hurry so the coral didn't die. I think the extra 10 seconds would not have made a difference and this was a poor excuse. Even if we had to sit at the light for a full cycle it would have been like a minute, it's a small intersection. The coral was in a cooler with aquarium water and we were about a half mile from our house.