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I lived a lot of my life as a boy and man (gross), so relationships I had with women were visibly heterosexual in that period.

Nonetheless, because I was so effeminate as a man, I was commonly seen as gay and I often felt like I was not "straight-passing" even though my relationship was viewed as straight, even when I insisted I was straight, etc.

After transitioning, it feels like for the first time my effeminate nature aligned with my perceived female gender, and people no longer perceived me as gay - it's like I became "straight" for the first time in my life.

Simultaneously, my relationship went from straight to gay. When I was visibly trans and not cis-passing, the relationship was obviously "queer" or "gay" to other people, which made my partner very happy (she loves being visibly queer, which is not something I enjoy as much).

Once I started to pass as a cis woman, suddenly our relationship became perceived as platonic - people started asking if we need one or two checks at a restaurant where before they assumed we were together. Even when we are affectionate with one another it seems like people don't assume we are in a romantic relationship. It's like the relationship has become invisible.

I know from communities like /r/reallesbians that we often struggle to be visible to one another (esp. it seems for people to know who is a candidate to date), and people talk about what signals lesbians commonly use to identify to others that they are gay or bi, etc. - so I suspect others might feel the way I do too, it's like society doesn't consider my relationship "valid" anymore.

When I clarify that we are partners, it feels like we are given a second-class designation as a relationship, as though it were a relationship between young people or children. Whereas when we were perceived as straight I felt like we were treated like we were really together, that the relationship was serious.

Been thinking about this, so I thought I'd put it out there. Part of the problem is that I live in a homophobic and conservative place, so I know that doesn't help - does anyone have experiences moving to more liberal places where they felt suddenly like their queer relationship was taken more seriously?

Even when I was visibly trans, I think a lot of people still took our "queer"-visible relationship seriously because they coded it as still a kind of "heterosexual" relationship (between a male and a female). I feel like the cis-passing woman with woman relationship is considered less valid, taken less seriously by comparison.

@lesbians Johanna Elberskirchen was a German #lesbian writer and activist. She would be 161 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johanna/_Elberskirchen

I recently got into WSL and it seems like all the amazing footballers are all lesbian….

Emma (16) keeps harassing my GF (18), and accusing her of SA. This is pissing me off so much as her boyfriend.

(mild possible nsfw)

(i am genderfluid and bi btw but still sapphic 🙏 😅)

i’ve seen people joke flirt with each other as friends, but not like this, so idk if these two are friends or dating. Emma is being nicer so i added her alt when she added me to a gc, but these things she”s saying and what she’s doing in a group chat instead of dm’s is kinda putting me off…

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It was a simple wedding with only our family who came and some friends of ours.

I’ve never actually been married, and to think it’d be with a beautiful woman who I’ve been friends with and lived next door to for 6 years (now live with).

so my ex kayla (20f) is someone i got back together with after she changed and stopped being a dick towards me after we broke up the first time when she was 18 and i was ~17 (i’ll be 19 this year).

now, she’s a very nice person to me, and i broke up with her because we stopped talking to each other and i therefore lost feelings for her. i didn’t use social media much let alone group chats, and she didn’t private message much.

when i could/wanted to, i’d try to message but she’d often be doing something else or already in the middle of the convo. before we broke up, it turns out she was seeing another girl without my permission or consent because “she’s poly” (we gotta let each other know before we can date someone, that was the agreement. i did it for her but she didn’t for me).

we broke up and she moved on quickly because “oh at least i have 2 other women i like” and she didn’t even have feelings for me after we dated?? (she had feelings at 18 when she was a bully, but not at 20). neither of us like each other that way, but it hurts that she found someone else so quickly, didn’t feel that way for me, and didn’t even tell me about her new gf before we broke up

@lesbians Ika Freudenberg was a German #lesbian musician and feminist. She would be 167 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ika/_Freudenberg

i’ll refrain from overposting but i’m a bit scared. kayla (20f) is my gf and (idk if she still is) but was a huge trump supporter. she was quite cruel to me because i first dated her as a trans man and she accused me of sexual harassment after we broke up.

we got back together and have been dating for quite some time (about 11 months) but we barely talk. she only plays video games and talks to her friends, so i barely chat with her, she rarely responds, and i don’t use Discord a lot where i chat with her.

i asked if this would work out and if she would prefer it if we were just friends, but im scared that she’ll accuse me of things again and make harassment/slander of me because i said that

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(If you're interested, location is https://www.google.com/maps/place/Dyke+Mountain/@61.7147217,-146.3047177,54676m/data=!3m1!1e3!4m6!3m5!1s0x56b5fcdc64c81993:0x1ca87e1ab812d9c2!8m2!3d61.6994444!4d-146.1272222!16s%2Fg%2F1tgxt8dv?entry=ttu&g%5C_ep=EgoyMDI1MDMxOS4xIKXMDSoASAFQAw%3D%3D )

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@lesbians Pepi Lederer was an American #lesbian actress and writer. She would be 115 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pepi/_Lederer

It feels wrong to jump into a relationship after trying to get over someone and not fully being over them, so I’m gonna wait a while before I pursue this girl and will break up if I just can’t move on.

I don’t want to break up, but I’ll have to for a while, so I hope I can get over the crush soon so we can both date :3

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i’m so sick of this. i’m just gonna stop dating people who prefer men because people i love ditch me for them.

they’re usually bi but then like men more. obviously men are better partners than women to them because they leave me for some dude. i’m so sick of it.

i’ve never even dated someone who exclusively liked girls, so i’ve never been left for another girl but i’d obviously be liked better by ppl i love if i were a man. (some ppl would dump me for other women tho probably)

ditched, ignored, dumped. i’m so sick of this. i want someone who loves me and only me. someone who wont break up with me for some dude. someone who wont ignore me and talk to dudes behind my back like my gf. i love my partners equally, im so tired of not getting the same fucking treatment.

i am done.

i’m never dating anyone else who already has a partner, ik they prefer the existing partner over me regardless of if they are poly.

i don’t want to be friends anymore when i’ll just be ignored.

@lesbians Lida Heymann was a German #lesbian feminist. She would be 157 years old today.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lida/_Heymann

@lesbians God forbid a #lesbian likes to dress like a ghost.

I’m finally not 23 anymore, and I’m going to spend this wonderful day with my beautiful girlfriend!!

@lesbians Vita Sackville-West was a British #lesbian author and garden designer. She would be 133 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vita/_Sackville-West

@lesbians Edith Ellis was a British #lesbian author and activist. She would be 164 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edith/_Ellis

it was around 1am and i was trying to sleep, and suddenly i thought “what if i get back with my ex from sixth grade?” (i’m still friends with her)

i started to get a warm and fuzzy feeling, so i was like “ruh oh raggy… i can’t get another crush again…”

she’s straight now, and my tired brain decided it was one of those things where i’d understand if she said no and continue to be her friend but would be like “yeah, why not” if we dated 🤷‍♀️

i thought that even if i was an immature ass at 12, i could be better and we could try again now.

however, when i woke up, my feelings completely vanished and i had no desire to date her at all.