It’s her parents’ fault for naming her Fartlow.
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Not bagging on you, but men mature late. People also tend to learn from experience and relationships in high school tend to be mutual torment in a lot of ways. Boys/men, being on the winning end of that, snap out of it later because they don’t see the problem until a few heartbreaks.
“Putler and Drumpf totally make out! And they’re guys!”
Punishment: a fine and more subsidies from the taxpayers to make up for the fine.
There’s an amendment or two for this.
Romeo was intentionally a superficial douche. He was madly in love with a different girl at the beginning of the play.
The whole country is stupid, though.
Imprison them and put them to work.
“Do you think anybody wants a roundhouse kick to the face while I’m wearing these bad boys?”
The government buys a lot of things it couldn’t buy without this.
Your therapist sucks in multiple ways. I’m sorry. A good therapist doesn’t see people as “legal/illegal.”
Also, long response incoming. Sorry.
I think you need to ask questions about the therapist’s experience and comfort level. A lot of people claim to “specialize” in something but they never really experienced it. It would help you to find someone with experience working somewhere like drug and alcohol rehab, community mental health (the word “intensive” should be in there somewhere, like “children’s intensive services” or whatever), a mental hospital, and/or with inmates or parolees.
I say those things not because I think you necessarily fit in with those populations, but because a therapist with experience with individual and group therapy in those settings is going to be experienced with nearly every combination of disorders and situations.
Edit: a good question to get the above information is to ask the therapist where/how they earned their hours while an associate/intern. A lot of schools send people to community based programs like the stuff I mentioned above. If they did earn their hours at a place for underprivileged people, ask about their experience. If they act like they’re so grateful to be out, make a note. If they earned their hours in private practice (working under a therapist in private practice vs an agency) they likely don’t have experience with jack shit.
In other words, you need someone who isn’t scared. Ask them if they’ve ever hospitalized anyone. Find out their policy on doing so. You need someone experienced with assessing for plan, means, and intent without being trigger happy at first mention of suicide. Clients are much better off being able to voice their thoughts without fear that the therapist can’t handle it and without fear that mere mention of suicidal ideation gets a psych team called. You want someone who can navigate that situation so you can decide together how to keep you safe and alive.
Clearly, it might also help to ask their opinions on ICE and/or Palestine, though I get why you wouldn’t. Someone who cares about people would be rightly horrified by the current situations, and you deserve a therapist who cares about people.
The number one determining factor in whether therapy works is if the client can trust the therapist. It’s not the therapist’s orientation, education, etc., it’s trust. Ask questions as if you’re trying to determine if they’re the kind of person you can trust.