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I thought either a wedding planner or marriage councellor, someone who's supposed to help you in your relationship. And obviously family members.

Feel free to mention personal experiences.

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[–] [email protected] 88 points 2 years ago (3 children)

My neighbor cheated with his partner's sister, and now lives with the sister. The most aggravating part of it is that he has kids with both. Every other week his ex has to come by to drop off her kids at her sister's house since they share custody. From the kids perspective, their sibling is also their cousin.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 years ago

Wow, so the kids are half siblings and cousins at the same time. Food for thought

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] SnokenKeekaGuard 22 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 years ago

We aim to please.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Idk probably her mom. They're super close, and her mom is in the later stages of life.

That'd fuck things up real bad.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard 23 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It was her last wish on her deathbed

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It would have been rude not to

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Help me step son in law, I’m stuck on my way to the lord

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago

Hump me across the finish line

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 2 years ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 years ago

Woody Allen? Are you on Lemmy now?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That’s pretty bad, perhaps outshined only by your and your partner’s child

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

satan? when did you join the fediverse?

[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 years ago (3 children)

The one that we made a sexy time video years ago that I have since forgotten that it was still in on my computer, that she found and it caused a big argument.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard 15 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Didn't have to personalise your reply 😭

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Hitler, probably. I feel like that might be quite bad.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I always thought that people who liked, um… β€œcold” partners preferred them fresh or nearly so.

Is there anything left of him except bones?

Ok that’s enough internet for me…

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I know you're joking, but I don't think there's even bones. The KGB destroyed his remains.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Wow. A 30 year old AIDS joke? On my Lemmy?

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 2 years ago (4 children)

When both people in a relationship are in the leadership of an organization, it's a serious problem when one of them cheats with someone else also in the leadership of that organization. A friend of mine was part of an organization where this happened, the drama was terrible.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 years ago

Was your friend inside an HBO show?

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard 10 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Oh my god how can you even stay there after that

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 years ago (6 children)

My husband’s ex-wife cheated on him with his brother and best friend. It would be completely terrible to cheat with those people even without that history, but it makes it 10x worse.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 years ago (9 children)
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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 years ago

Her sister. They're close, and it would be devastating to her.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Someone else that they trust a lot that they introduced you to to help you out of a jam.

I've seen the best friends one a couple of times and it completely destroys the dynamic obviously. One guy isolated himself and spent a year drunk and on /pol/ and the first conversation I had with him after that was about how the holocaust didn't happen. Idek if cheating happened in that instance or if she just lined up his best friend really quickly.

Everyone new I meet seems to be polyamorous now but I just hear about less relationship drama generally.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I'm torn between partner's family member, partner's best friend, & partner's ex.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)
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[–] SnokenKeekaGuard 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

A know of a woman who cheated on her girlfriend, but then the affair partner and the girl who was cheated on got together. (All parties are gay women)

A friend of a friend tbf, noone I know personally.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

at that point, why not just be polyamorous πŸ˜…

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago

Piers Morgan. Sucks to be cheated on, but imagine he was the one your partner preferred. That shit would stay with you for life.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

The answer is…. D) all of the above/ and below!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

Their sibling, or parent.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Their ex after me, I would suppose. That'd sting.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

Kim Dot Com

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 years ago

Time to update Wikipedia's List of Sexually Active Popes.

If there was ever an article that deserved This list is incomplete, you can help by expanding it, it's this one.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

lol I think my spouse would be more confused than upset

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Anyone, but also 2x anyone with an incurable std.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

I also choose this guys wife

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

There's only one right answer to this question and it's the one person that will make him/her feel stupid for trusting you, AKA "the friend you told them not to worry about"

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